Online Dating Magic Secrets to Attracting a New Love
By Nadine Brown
TABLE OF CONTENTS Copyright Info Disclaimer Intro Chapter 1 Chapter 2 Chapter 3 Chapter 4 Chapter 5 About the Author
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Intro
Online dating is fast becoming one of the best ways to find your one true love nowadays. You don’t need to be an expert in anything if you want to join the millions of online relationship searchers. All you need is a good computer with internet connection and the smarts to create a dominant profile in any sites you want to apply to and you’re all set to go. Of course you can’t really just jump in without any prior knowledge about online dating so here we have this simple guide, the Online Dating Magic, which you can refer to before you moving on to the real thing. So sit back, read on and learn how to take the online dating scene by storm.
Chapter 1 Introduction to Online Dating Dating is not only a wonderful time of life, but also a context for enormous spiritual and personal growth. You learn so much about yourself, others, God, love, spirituality, and life through dating. Done well, it can be fulfilling in and of itself. Done well, it can be one of the most fun and rewarding aspects of your life. Done well, it can lead to a good marriage. - Henry Cloud
Few experiences compare to the excitement, mystery and romance of going out on a first date. Yet in our fast-paced world, it seems more difficult than ever to meet that special someone. If you are lucky, a friend might introduce you to someone or you might meet someone at a party, but sadly, this is not the reality for most people. Many people end up lonely and frustrated that they just cannot seem to meet the right person. Since the internet gained popularity in the mid-1990s, meeting people online has become a common way for people to connect with other likeminded individuals including finding someone they would like to date. Once considered an alternative for desperate people, today online dating has become a popular way for people from all walks of life to find a suitable mate. However, navigating online dating sites and getting onto the dating scene is not always as straightforward as one would hope. There are many considerations to take into account from protecting your privacy to knowing what you want in a relationship. This book is a step-by-step guide to the online dating process. In it, you will learn the most important factors you need to know about setting on this still relatively new way of finding a date whether it be for finding your true love or finding a new friendship.
ONLINE DATING 101 For the uninitiated, it bears defining this thing we are referring to as online dating. Also known as internet dating, online dating is simply when people (whether individuals, couples or groups) interact on the internet with the sole purpose of developing some sort of relationship whether romantic or otherwise. While many and maybe even the majority of, people are searching for a significant other or just a romp in the hay, there are some people who are only interested in meeting new friends. Online dating services serve to help these people find one another, thus making the process much easier by providing services such as computer chats and private messaging. Basic members of online dating sites get limited access, but you can upgrade at any time to get unlimited access. Unlimited access means that you will be able to see other people’s personal profiles and be given the ability to be able to contact them, if you would like to pursue some type of relationship. Personal information such as age, gender, interests, location and similar information is given to the site when you want to join, but is not accessible with free accounts. Upgraded membership, however, allows you access to this information as well. Another thing of note is that there is a matchmaking option that the site provides which match your likes and interests to another person online and it will suggest that you both should be talking to one another. So with that in mind, you should, at first, be critical of what sites you want to join in. Research their services, what they additionally do to help you find your perfect mate and what standards they abide to. Also, nothing happens overnight so be patient, good things come to those who wait. Looking for reputable sites maybe what you should first prioritize. As we all know, there are now a lot of online dating sites that contain fake profiles for one reason or another. So be prudent before jumping onto the online dating wagon. After browsing around and finding out that they have positive reviews, then that is the time that you should consider their paid services. At that point, you should hopefully have a glimpse of some people you would like to know more details about.
Lastly, when doing your own profile, be sure to add more than just your name and address. Add some photos, if the site allows for multiple ones, put your interest and dislikes on your “about me” section, and be honest. Say only what you want in person, but don’t exaggerate. If you keep actively updating your profile and become part of the community, someone will notice you and soon you will be going out on your first date with someone you have met online.
Chapter 2 Choosing an Online Dating Service I've been dating since I was fifteen. I'm exhausted. Where is he? - Kristin Davis
You might be asking yourself, why the heck are you still not getting noticed in your online dating profile when a lot of your buddies now have partners to show off. You see, the problem may be that you are posting on the wrong site. There are a lot of online dating sites nowadays and if you’re not thorough enough, then you’ll end up posting your profile to a crappy site with no chance of success finding a suitable partner. First thing you should consider is deleting your profile from any site that is proving to be just a waste of time. Next, start to research alternative online dating sites. This is not so hard to do actually. Use search engines and search for "top online dating sites" and the best of the best should pop up at the top of the list. After you’ve done that, then it’s time for you to look at the testimonials, user comments and reviews. If they are good and reliable, take note of them. Do these until you have a couple of trusted sites to consider. Next thing you should do is to narrow down your options. Go for those sites which are easy to navigate, have the most beautiful men and women as their teaser photos or any other stuff the website can offer (like automatic matching, for example) that can be very helpful indeed. Your next stop will be to decide if you would want to avail of the site's paid services. As stated in the previous chapter, non-members are usually limited to seeing the pictures of the sites members, but do not have privileges to see their full site profile. If you are really serious about finding a date or a friend or whatever on that online dating site then we suggest that you go for it, pay up and reap the benefits. When you have chosen and paid for membership to the site you have deemed worthy of your hard-earned cash, then it is time to make yourself is noticed. Build up your profile; post a current, handsome/beautiful photo of yourself; add in your interests and dislikes; and go talk about yourself on your profile page. It won’t be long before you are noticed by someone who
has the similar interests. You can invite him/her to join you in a private chat, which your website should be able to provide, and in there you can exchange other information and talk a bit before you decide to meet up or not. This is the plain, simple and easy way to find the best and most suitable online dating site for you. There are lots of those sites nowadays so you can afford to be picky! Look around and you’ll be amazed at how many options you can find and you’ll be one step closer to the partner you’ve always wanted.
ACTION STEPS: I have been studying the online dating scene for a very long time. In my travels I have come across what I feel are the best online dating sites for beginners and experienced users alike. These sites provide great value, are very easy to use, and have a ton of options that will make your chances of meeting a great new mate even easier. Signing up for these sites is dead simple. Just enter your name, email, and location. No credit card number, no overly personal details. It does not get easier than this. Remember, the more dating sites you sign up to the better the chance you have of meeting the woman of your dreams. Each site has its own pool of users and each one attracts different types of people. Ideally, sign up to all of these so you can get the most benefit from this book. Studies have shown that signing up for multiple dating sites increases your chance of meeting and going on a date with someone by 2011!!
They are as follows:
Flirt Crowd •
This is probably the best online dating site if you are looking to get your feet wet in the online dating world. A very simple to use site that will get you up and running almost instantly.
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There are also a ton of responsive women on this site. Definitely the best place to start.
You can Sign Up FREE here: Flirt Crowd Sign Up
Matchmaker •
Matchmaker prides itself on being the longest running online dating site on the web.
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Unlike Flirt Crowd, this site caters to a more mature audience that is mainly looking for "true love". While the site suggests that users are 35+, I happen to know for a fact that their demographics range from about 25 to 80 years of age.
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If you're looking for more of a meat market type site, then matchmaker is probably not for you. However, if you really want a serious relationship, then definitely sign up here.
You can learn more and sign up FREE here: Matchmaker
Real Mature Singles •
This is another site that is perfect for people who are sick and tired of the dating game and are ready for a serious, stable, fulfilling, and loving long-term relationship. The women on this site are very much geared towards settling down and developing something long term and stable.
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I really recommend Real Mature Singles, if you are looking for something a bit more serious. If you're not, it's also a great idea to sign up and see what some of the more popular men and women on this site are doing with their profiles. This site probably has some of the best profiles I have ever seen. You can definitely learn from this.
You can learn more and sign up FREE here: Real Mature Singles
Cupid.com •
Unlike a lot of other dating sites, Cupid.com feels that using what they call "superficial test results" to find ones perfect other half is a bunch of hooey. Instead, they leave it up to the individual to browse the site and get to know other local singles. The best part about this site is that it goes through great lengths in finding you people who are local to your area. In fact, I have a good friend who found his perfect mate through this site and became good friends with the other person he met on this site.
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Their chat interface is really good, but the real strength of this site lies in its matching abilities.
You can learn more and sign up for FREE here: Cupid.com
Date.com •
Has been around for over ten years and has a very solid reputation. With approximately 4 million registered men and women around the world, they claim that they have 250,000 new members joining monthly.
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Their popularity stems from their innovation; their site offers a lot of features and options that members can access freely. They also expect a lot of future advances through FaceBook applications and more.
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A solid searching system allowing you to search by location, age, features and so forth to be as broad or as narrow as you like is its primary feature, giving you control over what you are looking for.
You can learn more and sign up for FREE here: Date.com
Specialty Sites If you are looking for something a bit different from mainstream dating sites, here are three that are very popular.
Let's start it off wholesome: Christian Matchmaker •
For a lot of men and women, finding core religious beliefs are a must in their relationships. Christian Matchmaker addresses this very need.
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What I found impressive is that the site is not intended to exclude any particular group. Non-observant, unaffiliated, Greek Orthodox and other religious singles are invited to join.
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I highly recommend this site to anyone looking to make a deeper connection with other singles. It just may be the missing link in your current relationships.
You can learn more and sign up for FREE here: Christian Matchmaker
If you're over 40, then this Elite Mate might be of interest to you.
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If you're tired of the same old dating scene and are looking for a relationship with someone who is in the same stage of life as you, then this is the place to be.
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Divorced? Single parent? Widowed? Then check this site out to find people who will understand your unique situation along with all its difficulties, time-constraints and obligations.
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I would recommend this site for anyone who still loves to have fun like they did in their twenties, but isn't quite old enough for a motorized wheelchair.
You can learn more and sign up for FREE here: Elite Mate
Now if you're looking for something a bit naughty, check out Hookup. •
I was wondering whether or not to include this site, but at the end of the day, I realized that not every person is looking for a lasting relationship. That's where Hookup comes in.
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You've probably already heard of Adult Friend Finder. If you haven't it's a site that claims to offer a place for no strings attached fun. Every man's dream right? Unfortunately Adult Friend Finder has been found to have a lot of fake and scamming profiles.
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Now imagine Adult Friend Finder without the fake profiles and women looking for money for webcam shows. Enter Hookup. With some 8 Million members, it is now the place to be for casual relationships of all types.
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If you are looking for a fling, sexy flirting, or going all the way ... you need to be here.
You can learn more and sign up for FREE here: Hookup
I would spend the next couple of minutes signing up for these sites. Remember, it's a numbers game. The more places you put yourself out there, the greater chance of success and finding the man or woman you want and deserve!!
Chapter 3 Your Date-Winning Profile You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when it’s right it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and its good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete. - Keith Sweat
Being unsuccessful in finding a date does not mean that you are hopeless, it just means that you haven’t yet found the right way to attract a suitable partner. Let me introduce you to the online dating world, where people meet to find friends, find partners or just hook up with gals and guys around your area (or around the world as well). First thing first is you need to find a good site where you can “advertise" yourself. If you have already done that back in Chapter 2, then we should move on to the next phase of our campaign. If not, then go back and pick a few sites to sign up to before moving on. Once you are all signed up, the next step is to beef up your profile. People will be more interested in you if you have taken the time to elaborate a bit about yourself. You yourself would probably rather look up someone who is industrious enough to take care with developing an interesting profile than someone who didn't even take the time to put their best foot forward, right? Don’t be shy to add in specifically what you want or what you’re looking for in a person as well. If you want someone to be friendly with your pets, then add that in there. You don’t want to end up with a girl who can’t even stand your husky, right? If you are religious and you want someone that has the same beliefs as you, then make sure to include that as well. You should find someone who fits your description, so don’t worry that it will alienate you from Mr. Right.
Online dating sites have unique tools that allow them to weed out individuals that do not match your criteria. It's amazing what these online dating sites can accomplish for searching couples! An important thing to do, when chatting or even when filling out your profile, is to be honest. If you wear glasses and think they make you look geeky, then tell that to your online people you
are interested in. If you’re a bit chubby or have a limp, then mention that as well. They will find out when you meet them in person anyway, so no need to make them feel like you were leading them into something undesirable by avoiding the issue. Put up your real photo, make sure it is current, and try to find the most flattering one you have that way you’ll attract a lot more people on your profile. A picture can really be worth a thousand words in online dating sites. Make your profile unique. Don't copy someone else's profile and just put your screen name on it. Make it tell the viewer something specific about you. For instance, if you enjoy reading horror books, you might say that you enjoy Steven King novels or that you’re a fan of Dean Koontz. If you have a pet, you might want to say something about your pet. They say cute dogs are great date magnets! Give your viewer enough interesting stuff to read so they stay on your profile page long enough to read it. Complete your profile and be true to whatever you put on your profile, post your most handsome or beautiful picture in and you will be flooded with lots of people wanting to talk to you online. The key to a finding a successful date online is in your hands and it's really quite easy. So spend some time being inventive and original when filling out our profile and you'll be handsomely rewarded.
Chapter 4 Getting to Know People on Online Dating Sites: Making the First Move One of the strengths of Internet dating is that it's anonymously impersonal, which helps take the sting out of rejection. If you're interested in someone who notices your profile or you're intrigued by a computer-generated match, let the e-mail begin. If you're not interested, delete the e-mail with about the same level of remorse you'd feel from dumping jellyfish overboard. - Judsen Culbreth
Building your online profile on those dating sites you signed up to is very important. Information about yourself should include your age, location, marital status, interests and what you're looking for on those online dating sites (friendship, relationship, commitment, etc.). Many online dating sites have a whole process for filling out a profile. In fact, it's the first step they'll take you through upon joining the site. Online dating sites offer you many ways of advertising yourself to others, starting with your profile. Your profile, which will include information about yourself, may include photos, voice clips, videos or any designs you wish. You can mention what it is you're looking for on the site, whether it's dating, friendship, lifelong partner, potential marriage or whatever. How much or how little you put on your profile is up to you. The online dating site will usually have a profile template to assist you in providing your information. Now after those are done, don’t forget to constantly and consistently review your profile. The mistake many members make is putting up a profile and then forgetting all about it. For the first week or so, they sit around waiting for interested people to
contact them. When that doesn't happen, they move on to other things. What this results in (besides little success in meeting someone) is your profile is being pushed to the bottom of the pile because of inactivity. You may also want to login to the site to update it as well so it won’t get stagnant. The more you login to a site, the more it will show you as an active participant so you'll stay on top and get more views. It may seem obvious, but the main goal of the users of online dating sites is to go on a successful date. So don’t be shy to take the initiative and contact someone you are interested in. If you're a woman, remember that gone are the days where only men are allowed to take the first step. You may not think there is anything wrong with sitting back waiting for others to contact you, but what if thousands of others are doing the same? You get the point. One of the great things about online dating sites is that it will show when you and others are online. This means that if you send a message to someone, you won't have to wait for days to see if you got an answer. In most cases, you'll get an answer almost instantly (unless the person is not in front of their computer). This will give you an opportunity to chat with others or message back and forth. Don't limit yourself to only one or two people, even if it seems like you've found exactly what you've been looking for. Talk to as many people as possible so you have many choices available to you. After all, you signed up for the site to meet new people, so make every effort to meet as many people as possible. One of the things that make online dating sites so effective is their ability to match you with someone who has similar interests and desires to your own. This is the reason why good profiles are so important. If you specifically stated you were looking for a marriage partner, the site wouldn't match you with profiles of people looking for casual sex. They have very sophisticated tools that can weed out those that do not meet your specifications. While they're not perfect and can't make guarantees, they offer you an excellent opportunity to meet many new and interesting people.
Chapter 5 The First Date If you kiss on the first date and it's not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it's better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else. - Jennifer Lopez
Dating for the first time is not easy, it can be both stressful and demanding, if you don’t know how to handle yourself. It’s such a shame that there are no books available to teach dating skills but read on and we’ll give you some tips on how to survive and even enjoy your first date. Your first date is and should be a fun and special occasion. Being prepared mentally will help you enjoy the whole dating process. If you think positively about it, then most often it will turn out positively as well.
Go Alone The first rule that I would like to stress is that, no matter how scared or unsure you are about your first date “don’t” ever bring a friend along for the ride. Let me repeat -- DO NOT BRING A FRIEND ALONG! It will be a complete turn off and you don’t want that to happen. Your date should be spent by the both of you knowing each other, not looking to your friend to break the ice or give his or her approval.
Keep Your Mind Sharp Another thing avoid on your first date is drinking too much. If you get drunk, chances are you will end up doing something stupid or saying something ridiculous, which will throw away any chance that you have of getting a second date. Worse is if you go on blabbering about some uninteresting topic because you could not control yourself. A relationship that may have
developed into something very special can easily be ruined on the first date by
consuming too much alcohol. Let your new date get to know the real you, not the alcohol-induced you. Dress the Part My third tip is for you to dress appropriately for wherever you have decided to go on your date. A bench side ticket to a baseball game hardly demands you to put on anything but jeans and a Tshirt. Not exactly the place to wear a silk dress and pumps.
Don't Try Too Hard to Impress Lastly, be interesting by not trying to dominate the conversation. The purpose of the date is for you to get to know each other. Share the floor with your date and talk back and forth. Be a good listener. Not only does that make your date more comfortable, but if this person turns out to not be a good match for you, by allowing him or her to talk freely, you will know that by the end of the first date instead of investing months in someone before you realize they really aren't a good fit after all.
Rules of the Date for Men Dating for men should be considered an art. You need to really find the right rhythm so you can impress this woman who might be "the one". Not to put too much pressure on you, but there is no room for mistakes on your first date. So be careful and prepared going into it. I know a bit about first dates, so pay close attention and learn. Be Romantic, but Not Cheesy Modern men tend to forget that deep down women like to be cared for. A simple gesture like opening the car door or helping them get seated at a restaurant can really be golden moments for you. Being a gentleman really pays off so start practicing good manners now. A traditional date involves the man making dinner reservations, picking the woman up at her place and paying the bill for the meal. So make every effort to make her feel special. Doing the first date properly will get things off on the right foot. Given some recent news stories, note that some women would prefer to meet you somewhere neutral -- just in case she is afraid of having a psycho know where she lives. So if she suggests this, then don't take it personally. She's just playing it safe as well she should.
Be Patient and Show Respect If a woman takes you up on your offer to go out on a date, don’t rush things. Give her time to get used to the idea of going out on a date with you and let you know what date works best for her schedule. Three days is usually sufficient for her to make a decision. Show her that you
care enough about this first date to plan out the occasion. Do not show up at her door with no idea of what you're going to do. Anticipation tends to make things better, so once she tells you the best day for her, let her know some of the activities you had in mind and let her tell you what she's up for! At the time of the date, don't be late! If she allows you, pick her up at her place. If for some reason you're running behind schedule, give her a courtesy call to let her know. Women might keep you waiting, but they sure as heck don't like to be kept waiting, so try to accommodate. Open Your Wallet Don't be stingy. Spending money on a date is just the price of doing business. Get comfortable with it and suck it up. That doesn't mean you should pretend to be a trust-fund baby. It just means that no woman wants to date a cheapskate even if she's a cheapskate herself. Unless she really protests and gets angry, don't expect the woman to pay for the movie, dinner or whatever it is you end up doing. This is your treat. Let her know how special she is. That said, DON'T expect sex from her just because you paid! If that's what you want, then you shouldn't be reading this guide, you need a prostitute! But prostitution isn't covered in this book, so you'll have to find another book for that. Still there are some women who truly don't like men to pay for them -- many times because men expect sex in return. If that's the case with your date, then consider allowing her to cover the tip at dinner or to pay for dessert, coffee or a movie afterwards. It shows a respect for her "power" as a woman, while lightening the load on her budget. Show Her What You're Made Of
Women love a man that has confidence. If you've ever heard of the saying “fake it until you make it”, this is one scenario where it is certainly true. If exhibiting confidence is not your strong suit, then learn to fake it. Try it out with friends and in new situations before the date until it becomes second nature. Challenge yourself.
Remember, your role here is to make her feel special. If she spends the whole date catering to your insecurities, then your relationship will start off on the wrong foot. Keep in mind, however, that there is a huge difference between having confidence and being arrogant or conceited. A man can show his confidence in many ways such as sharing ideas and opinions without being argumentative. A confident and secure man does not need to prove he is right all the time. Women also find an affectionate and kind man to be very appealing. This doesn't mean you should be mauling her in public or be a push over. Just being kind, affectionate and thoughtful is more than enough. If you each have different ideas of what you want to do on a date, compromise and aim to make her happy first. You can do what you wanted to do on your own time or on your next date. She'll appreciate the effort your doing to make her happy and probably think highly of you as a result. Lastly, don’t forget to tell your date that you really appreciate the time she gave you. If you think she looks cute, tell her! It will warm her heart. If you think that things did not go well or simply found her unattractive in person, just thank her for a nice time, but don’t string her along by promising to call. On the other hand, if you feel you would like to pursue her, ask for permission to call for another date. She might not say "yes", but nothing ventured, nothing gained right? These are just a few of the many traits that women look for in men. Next
time you're looking in the mirror, ask yourself how many of these traits you already possess and how many you can easily develop with a little effort in time for your first date.
Rules of the Date for Women Women, too, should be aware that men may have certain expectations of them on a first date. But although many men would not like to admit it, women are in the unique position of being able to exert more control over the direction of the date and the relationship. So read on ladies because you are about to get a lesson in using your power on a date.
Don't Be Afraid to Set Boundaries All too often, women are afraid of letting themselves be bold or express their opinions on first dates. They might feel that their dates want a more subservient or timid type of woman. While that is certainly true for some men, most modern men that are worth your time want a woman with whom they can converse with in intelligent conversation. So don't be afraid to talk politics, sports, global warming or any other topic that might lead to a debate. Your aim here is not to be confrontational, but engaging. The sooner you can let your new beau recognize your intelligence, the less likely you will be to find yourself in a relationship with someone who is not capable of honoring your desires to be more than just a pretty face. Let Him Be a Man While some men could care less about proving their masculinity, there are still many men that have a need to care for a woman. If your date is opening doors for you, pulling out chairs or offers to pay for your meal then let him. In most cases, he is just trying to be a gentleman and show you that he was not raised by wolves. There are, however, some instances where a man expects to be rewarded for buying dinner by getting invited back to your bedroom. Unless you intend to sleep with him anyway, it is your job to let him know that just because he is paying for the meal, does not mean you are a push over. Ways that you can divert this are to offer to pay the tip and some other activity you have planned for afterwards or to pick up the tab on your next date (if you think there will be one). Most men will get it that your reciprocation for the free dinner is by paying for something else on the date, not some totally unrelated activity like sex. However, if you think that might be too subtle, you might have to tell him (even if jokingly) that you're not that kind of girl before the waiter comes to collect the money. And if he's really, really thick, you may just have to be blunt and tell him that paying for dinner does not entitle him to a romp in the hay with you. Resist the temptation to tell him he is crazy for expecting any activities between the sheets just because he bought you dinner. Instead stick to the facts and there should be no room for argument. Don't Play Games This is a mistake I see women make more often than not and it always leads to a failed relationship. If you like the guy, just tell him. If you want to see him when he calls you for a date, you can take time to reflect, but don't leave him hanging. If he keeps taking you out and buying
you dinner and you act cold or standoffish, he will lose interest. You wouldn't appreciate being treated that way and neither will he. Most men are quite direct and are not interested in wasting time with a woman who pulls schoolgirl pranks. If you've already established during your previous online chats and phone conversations that you are both looking for a serious relationship, then act like it when you actually start dating. If you find after the first date or two that he is not the kind of guy you are looking for, then politely end the relationship instead of leading him on. Otherwise it is a waste of time for both of you. This doesn't mean to be overly eager and pester him for dates every chance you get. Men don't like overly needy women either. If you want to call him, feel free to do so, but if he doesn't show interest by not returning your calls or conveniently forgetting about your future dates, then move on. You deserve a man who is interested in pursuing you and should not settle for anything less.
About the Author Nadine Brown Nadine Brown is a freelance writer and author of several eBooks available across the web. She has extensive experience in helping many people find their true love using online dating sites. Nadine currently resides in New Jersey, USA with her husband and two children.
