Creative Goal Setting Workbook

The Work Book Marianne Thorne

Creative Goal Setting Created and developed by

Marianne Thorne

For more information and support contact:

[email protected] (this is a special email address for users of this book only)

© Copyright: Creative Goal Setting 2010

Contents Introduction ...................................................................................................................... 2 Introducing Marianne ................................................................................................... 2 Getting Started .................................................................................................................. 3 Something you can do in the meantime........................................................................ 4 Hints before you begin: ................................................................................................ 4 Adding Value Exercise ..................................................................................................... 5 Who are we talking to? ................................................................................................. 7 The Three Rules of Creative Goal Setting........................................................................ 9 The reasons behind these rules: .................................................................................... 9 My Vision ....................................................................................................................... 10 The Significance of each of the 12 Areas of Creative Goal Setting ............................... 13 Arranging the 12 Areas................................................................................................... 14 Dealing with URGENT issues and creating a FOCUS .............................................. 14 Metaphysical Law........................................................................................................... 17 Distinctions ..................................................................................................................... 41 The Power of Pictures .................................................................................................... 44 Our Mind ........................................................................................................................ 45 Thank You Letter............................................................................................................ 59 Creative Goal Setting is an ongoing process .................................................................. 62 What makes Creative Goal Setting work? ...................................................................... 64

The Creative Goal Setting Workbook

Introduction The power of materializing your dreams lies within your own imagination. Creative Goal Setting supports your process of gaining clarity, self esteem and a sense of purpose with direction. This book is your pro-active motivation … the positive opposite to procrastination … the ‘why’ you would want to be bothered doing Creative Goal Setting! You can create your experience of life consciously. This may come as a bit of a shock … but … you have always been creating your life experience! You have always been doing this both consciously and unconsciously. This is why you can now take charge and get a lot more satisfaction out of guiding the process more effectively by using your creativity more consciously. You can constructively change your mind as often as you want and still end up with accumulated wisdom specific to your personal desires. The way you think and speak shapes your life experience as you know it. You have either heard this before, or it is new to you … quantum physics! The science of understanding HERE and NOW and how we connect with and affect the HERE and NOW. Oh, and our future!

Introducing Marianne Firstly, a quick introduction of myself. Marianne Thorne, Attitude Coach. Home base: Adelaide Hills, South Australia. Quite simply; for over 30 years I have immersed myself in understanding how I create my reality from moment to moment, month to month, decade to decade. I have discovered that if I don’t like what I am creating as my life experience, I can change it! It took me years to work this out as many of my family and friends were not at all interested in delving into the how and why of life. I changed my experience of that and how I was affected by their opinions, and got on with the journey of self discovery and self realization. I am now in my 40’s and a Mum. I have spent more than half my life (literally) expanding this wisdom for my benefit. Along the way, many friends and associates have joined this expedition into understanding quantum physics and practical day to day spirituality. My personal growth comes from having the courage to choose what I want. Courage … yes, to think and behave differently when I believe it to be appropriate. To now know when to filter out other peoples’ opinions and be guided by my desires; my passion and enthusiasm. That took a lot of learning! www.creativegoalsetting.com

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This has not always been easy … ever heard of peer pressure? Of course you have. And how about family and cultural traditions and expectations! So, how do I make the changes I so desire? I use my Creative Goal Setting Program. I have been using it since 1988. And I am not about to stop! The simplicity of the CGS Program continues to work for the new and improved version of me. As I evolve, so does the content of my Goal Folder. In truth, I could do all this without the CGS Program … and my life may have ended up looking more or less the same, but because this is the most efficient way of focusing my accumulated wisdom on getting what I really want, I believe it has improved my life experience more than tenfold. I have read many books and attended many seminars teaching the principles inherent in Creative Goal Setting. And I have seen many others remain the same, doing the same, getting the same … not apparently reaping the promised rewards. I think this is because they have not organized their personal values and priorities as simply and effectively as I have. The Creative Goal Setting Program is my method of putting it all into practice. Clearly and specifically communicating my desires is how I get what I want. I always have the intention that my desires be for the highest good of all concerned. In other words, I trust that the spiritual aspect of me can sort out the details of my desires and deliver the outcomes without doing any damage! Another way of saying that: I choose to trust I can have what I desire. The existing energy creating my reality continually moves, constantly rearranging, creating a new and greater reality. This always includes my latest requests to the extent of my commitment, excitement, and enthusiasm … positive attitude … toward them. And because I believe my requests to include the highest good of all … they do. Enough, about me … now for You.

Getting Started The best way to do Creative Goal Setting is by using the Creative Goal Setting Program. It lends itself to being used on your personal computer … templates are available to those who purchase the Program (of course!) and the classical physical Goal Folder (which I use, and highly recommend, along with the computer ideas) as my values and priorities continue to evolve over years. Plus there is the additional support provided for the additional financial investment. … Yet, I am giving you the next best thing! The knowledge to Do-It-Yourself by using the ideas from this Workbook. When you decide to upgrade to the Creative Goal Setting Program, use the special email address at the front of this workbook: [email protected] to

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request your link to a discounted Creative Goal Setting Program from www.creativegoalsetting.com . To make the most of this opportunity, ideally, you would invest in a folder/binder with 4 x 25mm “D” shaped rings from your local stationer/department store. (A white “Insert Folder/Binder” that has a clear pocket on the front to slide your Creative Goal Setting title page into is best.) I hope this Workbook provides you with the inspiration to upgrade and make Creative Goal Setting a way of life … not just another book you have read! The steps described in this book link your personal values and priorities to your ideal lifestyle. As with all good ideas; they are really only any good when put into action. Creative Goal Setting is making this as easy as possible by providing all the tools you require. Your effort is the key to your success. In this case it is easy effort, fun with colours and pictures … the closest I can get you to the effortless way of the Tao.

Something you can do in the meantime Collect pictures. One of the main elements of Creative Goal Setting is the cutting and pasting of pictures into 12 Areas of life inside your Goal Folder. You can draw pictures, use photographs or simply collect pictures from magazines and brochures. Written captions or headings cut from magazines are valuable also; be sure they are in positive present tense for best value. Don’t forget the internet for great images. I have done some “scrapbooking” style decoration in mine also. In each of the 12 Areas of the Goal Folder there are blank pages with only a border and the Creative Goal Setting butterfly logo; these pages are for pasting the pictures onto. Some Areas of your Goal Folder will need extra picture pages. Make these yourself by adding sheets of A4 paper in A4 plastic sleeves.

Hints before you begin: •

Personalize your Goal Folder by decorating its cover with colour, pictures, sparkles, etc.

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As you collect pictures and captions for your Goal Folder, use only a small dot of glue on the back of each picture/caption, so you can move them easily as you explore your options.

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I recommend that you use your own words when writing positive ideas to yourself. Using the Creative Goal Setting rules will teach you how to write positive personal affirmations. The reason for this is explained in the description of Our Mind.


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Adding Value Exercise Time to get to know you! Time to find some positive aspects of yourself that do not need transforming. You are already adding value to your world, whether you are aware of this or not. The Adding Value Exercise is a guide to understanding aspects of your innate value. Even if you feel the need to rebuild your life from the ground up … there are already some foundational aspects in place; sometimes they just need dusting off ☺. You are always adding value to those around you, whether you are aware of it or not. Before you read on and before you write a Vision of what and how you want your life to look and feel like, please have some fun completing the Adding Value Exercise on the next page. Whatever you do, do not procrastinate! Be pro-active. The following exercise only takes a few minutes and will potentially leave you feeling good about yourself! Well worth it! STEP 1. Using coloured markers (preferably), start on the first of three lists by writing 10 words that describe the favourite characteristics in your personality. You can use words describing your future personality by choosing qualities you aspire to in role models and mentors. (for example: successful, creative, intelligent, etc.)

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There are some words that do not work well within the subconscious mind; such as: unpolluted, unconditional. The subconscious mind focuses (through word association) on the core of the word. It creates polluted before it can “un” it. Unfortunately, it never gets around to “unning” it, because there is no such thing. You need to replace “negative core words” with words that represent the positive opposite to the negative core, while still saying what you want. For example for ‘polluted’; green, clean, pristine, ecologically sound. Correct any negative core words. STEP 2. Go over your lists and select (circle) 3 words from each. Keep it light and fun; I suggest that you just select the ones that jump out at you. Fill in this following sentence with the nine words you have selected. “I, ……………………….…. NOW KNOW I AM ADDING VALUE AS I USE MY (your name) ………………………..………., …….…..………………….. (the three words circled in your first list)

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BY ………………….……….., …………….……….……… AND ……………………….………. (the three words circled in your second list)

AND AS A RESULT MY WORLD IS MORE …………………...……………, ……………………..……..

AND ………..………….. NOW”

Fix the grammar; especially with the 3 words from the first list as they may need different endings. STEP 3. Transfer the sentence onto page 8 titled: My Life Plan where you will also notice room for a personal picture of yourself. www.creativegoalsetting.com

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Who are we talking to? The answer to that is: Your Self, your Super Conscious, God, Great Spirit … whoever, or whatever you want to call the creative force/intelligence creating our existence. After you have done the Adding Value Exercise get a photo, or draw a picture, of yourself (alone) and paste it on the My Life Plan page. The purpose of the self portrait is to communicate ownership of your Goal Folder to your subconscious mind using an image. A picture being worth a 1000 words… There are three purposes for doing the Adding Value Exercise: Firstly, to get you focusing on yourself - bringing you into present time and thinking about yourself with the Creative Goal Setting technique. Secondly, to point out that you are already contributing to those around you and to the Planet by happily being truly yourself. Like a tree. In just being itself and looking after its own needs by absorbing water, sunlight and other nutrients from the universal resources; a tree coincidentally adds value to the universe surrounding it. It creates beauty, oxygen, shelter, and food year after year; and of course, other by-products such as timber. While the tree’s focus is on survival or receiving nutrients; it helps the bigger scheme of things, whether it is aware of it or not. So, whether we realize it or not, we are adding value to those around us. Often in ways we are totally unaware of. We are leading by example all of the time, whether positively or negatively, and therefore others can learn from our experience also.


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My Life Plan Paste a photograph of yourself, that you are proud of, here

I, ………………………………………… now know I am adding value a I use my ………….……………………, …………………………….. and ……………….…………… By ………..….……….…..., …………..……….….….… and ……..…………………….. And as a result my World is more ……………….….……….., ………………....…...…… and …………..…………. NOW!


The Three Rules of Creative Goal Setting There are only three rules throughout the whole Creative Goal Setting process:

1. Write with coloured markers, changing colours after every phrase or sentence ~ coloured pencils are OK too.

2. Write everything in positive present tense ~ as if it is happening now.

3. Write only about yourself. The reasons behind these rules: 1. Colours: to activate the creative aspect of the mind. Plus, if you are feeling down the colours and positivity can help you feel better! 2. Positive Present Tense: the subconscious mind only works in present tense. A memory is like re-living an experience in present tense. For example, when you hear a song on the radio that reminds you of an event years ago, you re-experience (feel) it in present time. And why does it have to be Positive did I hear you ask? Beats being negative … this explained in detail in Our Mind later in this book. In the meantime, choose your words wisely. Many words are extensions of negative core words; for example: unpolluted, non-judgmental, unconditional, limitless. Use words that are positive while saying the same thing; for example: the positive opposite to polluted = clean, clear, pristine, etc. the positive opposite to judgmental = accepting, united, etc. the positive opposite to conditional = pure, free, etc. the positive opposite to limit = abundant, plentiful, opulent, etc 3. Only about yourself: it is not our right to change others or to expect others to change. Therefore, for things to change ... first we must change ourselves. We can only write about ourselves in a relationship, or about the relationship itself. That is, write about the concept of two people knowing each other; rather than the people within it


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My Vision Before writing your vision on the My Vision sheets, spend a little time imagining an ideal lifestyle. Yes, it is appropriate to daydream right now!

~ dare to dream your dreams ~ Have the page My Vision (next page) ready with your coloured markers. Then spend a minute or two imagining an ideal lifestyle ~ daring to dream your dreams ~ I will lead you through a short visualization. Sit back, relax and answer these questions silently to yourself. This will only take a couple of minutes and then you can write your ideas on your My Vision Sheet afterwards. Be outrageously creative; let go any restrictive thoughts about money and/or time and get a feel for what you would ideally love to be doing, having and being as though you had all the money and time to do, have and be all that you want. Think in terms of abundance ~ abundant love, good health, resources, friendship, work, fun, leisure, laughter, purpose, etc. The Visualization is called Dare to dream your dreams • Get a feeling for what you would ideally love to be doing, being and seeing in your future. • Where would you like be? Choose a location on the planet you would most like to live. ….. Which country? ….. Is it in a country area or city? ….. What is the landscape like? ….. are you living near water, trees, mountains or on an island? • What does your home look like? ….. Is it a unit, a house, a mansion or a tent? ….. Do you share it with anyone? • What do you have? Do you have a vehicle? ….. Computer? Great clothes? ….. What else? • What are you doing? ….. Are you traveling ..... where to? Studying ..... what at? Working ….. what as? Or are you doing all of these things? • And how is your health; both mental and physical? Are you happy and healthy? Using the Vision sheet following and the Three Rules of Creative Goal Setting, begin writing the first draft of your ever evolving Vision. It can be written as a list or in paragraphs, your choice.


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The first copy of your Vision is a draft. Eventually this Vision will reflect the content of your Goal Folder’s 12 Areas. You can add to it later. In Creative Goal Setting you are encouraged to update your Vision (and other work sheets) often. Keep it exciting and include as much detail as you can in order to create a clearer picture in your ‘mind’s eye’. It may take a few re-writes to get it right. And in a year or two you may have changed your mind and need to re-write it again. Each time you re-write it, select the good aspects and transfer them into your next version. Rewriting your Vision will continue to motivate you when you are not sure of your direction in life. Exploring your Vision will pull you through times of doubt. Confirm you have written in present tense and only about yourself. When you read your Vision; it should be motivating ... if it is not, then it needs re-working with more detail and/or with more stretch. Stretching your reality out into the “unknown” is safe inside your Goal Folder. In fact, that is one of the benefits of having a Goal Folder. You can explore your hopes and desires safely; building them up with more and more detail. The more excited you get about them, the more positive thought will go into them and the more likely they will materialize. Sound too good to be true? Read on, take it step by step and ease yourself into it. Please note: Only write what you are willing to take responsibility for and/or eventually action yourself. Writing goals for others is similar to having expectations of others - not always very comfortable if you are on the receiving end. So don’t do it. We are here to create our own reality … it is out of integrity to think we can or should create someone else’s reality!


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The Significance of each of the 12 Areas of Creative Goal Setting Career ~ Whatever you most like to contribute to the community. For many people this provides a financial income. Career can involve being a full time parent and/or partner, doing volunteer work, a job, or even retirement. This can also include study (school/tertiary) and/or secondary careers.

Family ~ Parents, siblings, partners, children, pets, relatives and any others that may live with the family. (Friends go in the Leisure Area.) Health ~ Your physical and mental well-being. Home ~ The place(s) you live in and/or would like to live in. Leisure ~ The hobbies, sports and interests you have outside of your career, including friendships, social life, travel and holidays.

Material Things ~ Everything that you would most like to own. For example: clothing, jewelry, accessories, books, ornaments, cars, boats, bikes, airplanes, furniture, electrical appliances, stereos, televisions, computer and office equipment, houses, investment properties, etc.

Personal Development ~ Improvement of your skills, talents, attitude and intellect. This includes Creative Goal Setting, personal development publications, learning musical instruments and languages, attending business courses, furthering education, personal development seminars, etc.

Relationships ~ Your current and/or proposed primary relationship with your loving partner(s). If this is not relevant, then it can be used to describe all relationships with people; although these are covered in other Areas. (eg family members in Family, friends in Leisure and co-workers in Career.)

Resources ~ Any physical and non-physical attributes found within your inner and outer (psychological/spiritual and physical) environment. Including, but not limited to, money and management thereof. Physical and intellectual abilities, location, knowledge, experience, contacts ... this list could be very long Self ~ Your relationship with yourself. Your identity from your point of view. Your acknowledgment and acceptance of your physical self and self esteem. For example how would you like to relate to yourself if left alone on an island for a year or more?

Spirituality ~ Your relationship with the Super Conscious aspect of your mind, often known as God, Higher Self, your Being and/or Great Spirit, etc.

The Planet ~ Planet Earth; its people and its environment. Some of the Areas over-lap, for example Relationships and Family, Home and Material Things ... complete all Areas making sure each Area complements the others. www.creativegoalsetting.com

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Arranging the 12 Areas. Let’s get your thoughts in order. Creating the results you desire requires order as well as creativity. Make yourself 12 cards/slips of paper, with the 12 Area headings: Career, Family, Health, Home, Leisure, Material Things, Personal Development, Relationships, Resources, Self, Spirituality, and The Planet. Or use ours on page16. The purpose of this exercise is to compare the 12 Areas to find the most important ones. Although the Areas are all valuable, the more important Areas form a foundation for the others. For a few minutes assume you have mastered life; as though life is ideal and running smoothly. Now sort the twelve Areas into an order of importance that suits your written Vision. The Area you choose to put first should reflect that which you believe creates the foundation of your life. People’s opinion on this will vary and may change as they evolve their values and priorities. Keep sorting through the Areas; the least important will be the last. Put the most important Areas first to demonstrate which ones you think form a foundation for others. Until all 12 Areas are in a comfortable order. For example, comparing Home and The Planet … imagine yourself standing on the Moon, looking at Planet Earth ... you would need to put The Planet before Home if you want to have a home on a planet. Even though you may not spend much time thinking of The Planet every day, it probably forms a foundation for other Areas also bringing it forward closer to the front of your Goal Folder. If you notice yourself putting an urgent Area (eg Resources due to financial stress) to the front of your Goal Folder, ask yourself: Would I still have these Areas in this order it I had solved my monetary issues? If you are looking for further guidance, quiz yourself with Why and What if questions. Life is full of ups and downs. Imagine the 12 Areas as 12 spokes of a wheel. The ease of the journey through life depends on the even length of the spokes in your wheel of life. To bring them into balance you need to focus positive attention on each area. If you are doing this exercise in this book; you are going to label the following 12 Distinction sheets (starting on page 18) in this book in the order you have just made. But first read on … Life often serves up a few obstacles that need to be dealt with urgently. ie financial problems, communication break-downs in relationships, career changes, etc. Creative Goal Setting supports you in dealing with these.

Dealing with URGENT issues and creating a FOCUS Dealing with what is most urgent is done by leaving this book or your Goal Folder open at the Area that could most benefit with improvement.


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To create a focus in your life, decide which of the 12 Areas is most urgent now. Find a place in your home where you will see this book daily and leave it open at this urgent Area. Even if you have no pictures or words written yet. Whatever happens in your life while this book (I use both my Goal Folder and my computer screen image for this!) is open at this page will be relevant feedback to this Area. We will be discussing how your subconscious thoughts affect the outcomes in this area of your life in the chapter on Our Mind. When you have received the outcomes you are looking for, be guided by your inspiration to another one of the 12 Areas and leave it open there. You may want to re-arrange the order of the Areas as you grow and change your outlook on life. That is easier to do in a Goal Folder … have you made your own, or would you like to up-grade to a Creative Goal Setting Program yet? If so, email me at [email protected] ☺ If your life is running smoothly, with no obstacles, leave this book open at the Area you would most like to improve. With the Creative Goal Setting technique you are changing the way you perceive and create your life; not using your will power to change external elements. You have the opportunity to change your own outcomes with integrity; not the outcomes of others. Leaving others with their own perceptions and creations. They will deal with these in their own way in their own time. This is where you “let go” and let the Super Conscious aspect of the mind juggle the outcomes “for the highest good of all concerned”. Go ahead, write the 12 Area headings on the 12 Distinctions sheets in the Area box at the top of each Distinctions sheet, in the order your have arranged them. The blank pages are for the pictures you collect and draw relevant to the Area heading you have written on the opposite Distinctions Sheet. Distinctions sheet instructions follow the sheets.


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Metaphysical Law

There is Order, there is Purpose.

Everything happens in the right order, at the right time, in the right place, for the right reasons, for the right people. I am doing the right thing always; my purpose is happening now. I trust in what I am doing and where I am going. I trust in the timing for there is a Purpose and I am definitely part of it. I trust my progress in materialising my dreams! www.creativegoalsetting.com

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Distinctions Area:

Tangible Expectations

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Distinctions In Creative Goal Setting Goal there are twelve Areas of life needing your attention. There is a difference between these Areas, although sometimes they overlap. Now is your opportunity to discover what outcomes you want in each Area and how you feel about each of these Areas of your life. Put these Distinctions in writing. These sheets are used to: a) establish the physical, measurable outcomes you wish to receive in each Area of your life; written on the left under Tangible Expectations, and b) the feelings and/or ethics you want to experience in each Area of your life; written as a separate list on the right under Personal Values. There is a double line down the centre indicating there is no need to match the left and the right sides together. You can have more than one Distinctions sheet per Area. For example in Career you may have separate Distinctions sheets for current job, potential career, school, study and/or business. In Resources you may need a second sheet for business finances if you are self employed. This is made easier when using a Goal Folder … ready for your upgrade to the Creative Goal Setting Program yet? You know the email address: [email protected]! 1. Choose an Area of your life to work on, preferably one that requires some fixing. 2. If you are using your Goal Folder; write the Area of your life you are working on in the Area box at the top of the sheet. Tangible in Creative Goal Setting means touchable and/or measurable. Some different measures used in our society are: •

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academic titles

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job titles

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distance

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school grades

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volume

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speed

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clothing sizes

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numbers

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weight

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percentages

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money

Add to this list: behaviours that can be touched, eg smiling, walking, etc The word Expectations means goals. It is used to encourage the subconscious mind with expectancy / knowingness. It also assists people to build their self esteem if they have ever experienced others expecting too high or low of them. 3. Starting on the left hand side ~ using the 3 rules of Creative Goal Setting (Using coloured markers and changing colours after each phrase or sentence, writing in positive present tense and only writing about yourself). Write at least 5 things describing outcomes you want in this area of your life. Write long and short term goals in present tense.


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Please note: We do not use dates in Creative Goal Setting because: •

The subconscious mind relates best to, and activates, “now” statements. Future dates are stored and ‘forgotten’ in the subconscious mind as surplus information.

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dates can set us up for failure when a goal is not achieved ‘on time’, and

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why wait months or years to find out that you have the wording incorrect, when with correct wording, your expectations can show signs of coming to fruition within a couple of weeks or hours (days for some people - months for others!).

Using verbs ending in “ing” is very effective when communicating with the subconscious mind. 4. On the right hand side, under the heading: Personal Values, write the values you think would be helpful. These do not need to match with the list on the left hand side. Values are feelings that cannot be measured, yet can be felt in our body. Over time, as you evolve these Distinction sheets, you may recognize a core group of these values developing as very important to you and used by you to judge the value of your situations and associations. 5. The box at the bottom of the sheet labeled Essential Focus is for the most significant word that you have written in your list of Personal Values. Choose a single word and write it in the Essential Focus box. Some examples to a few Areas follow on the next page:


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Distinctions Tangible Expectations

Personal Values Career

Self employed Working from home by choice Receiving $1000 nett per week Working 20 hours per week on average

Using my creativity Freedom Positive Recognition from peers Success with integrity

Family Communicate wit Parents each week Finish building Daughter’s cubby house Exercise and play with our dogs daily Lead by positive example for my Children

Trust Love and Respect Unity and Support Sharing and Caring

Health My body draws the nutrients I require from the foods I eat I walk for 30 minutes every day I drink at least 1 litre of water each day

I feel fit and healthy and respect my body Proud Intuitive

Relationships I share my life, my dreams, my achievements, my family, my experiences and things with my partner I communicate with compassion I share restauranting, traveling and socializing

Love, Trust and Respect

Intimacy and Friendship Caring and Sharing

Resources I have the skills to invest my money wisely I save 10% of all my income I live on 70% of my income; investing the rest

Discipline Wealth and abundance Understanding

Self I am a human being living on Planet Earth I am an adult I am a woman I am a communicator

It is fun being me I love and respect me I treat me with compassion I appreciate me for who & what I am

The Planet I lead by positive example by looking after my things and land by choosing ecologically sound equipment, materials and agents I travel overseas meeting people and understanding different cultures I drive ecologically sound and well serviced vehicles


Healthy and Abundant

United and Accepting Stewardship and caring

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The Power of Pictures 1. Finding and/or draw pictures and captions that can fit anywhere in your current and/or future life. Be aware of wording in quotations and captions … you may need to re-word them positively within the 3 rules of Creative Goal Setting. 2. Please note: using pictures of friends, family and pets is not recommended as this conflicts with the third rule of Creative Goal Setting. 3. The pictures and captions are cut and pasted onto the blank sheets that have the butterfly logo in the bottom right corner. It is recommended that you use only one dot of glue on the back of each picture, so that they are easy to change later on. If you are using your Goal Folder, you can add more plastic sleeves for more pictures. You can use coloured paper. Keep pictures and worksheets together in their relevant Areas. Unless you are moving them to the back to your Received Goals or out of your Goal Folder because they are no longer relevant. 4. The power of the subconscious mind is such that the colours of cars, brands of goods, etc, may materialize exactly as pictured in your Goal Folder. So have fun choosing the details carefully!

Before we do anymore activity … I want to explain the mind and how it creates our reality … I added a slide show over the next few pages!


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Our Mind In explaining the mind, that is not visible or physical (unlike the brain that is an organ with physical functions) we can use a model or an analogy.

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Our Mind Iceberg

Water level

Using icebergs as a model

In Creative Goal Setting we use three icebergs joined at the base below the waterline to illustrate three areas of the mind.


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Our Mind Conscious Thinks

Subconscious Stores

Super Conscious Creates

Levels of consciousness

This iceberg model is portraying 1-10% of the mind as Conscious. In other words, we are only aware of a small part of our mind; the part doing the thinking. The Conscious Mind THINKS. • It judges, decides, discerns, concludes, etc. It does ‘self talk’ or ‘internal dialogue’, this being the thought process you are familiar with. • The Conscious Mind is the awareness of physical and non-physical surroundings. • Awareness is the interpretation of data from the 5 senses: sight, sound, touch, smell and taste. The other parts have specific functions also: The Subconscious Mind STORES. • It has stored every experience you have ever had since conception. Maybe more! • It stores all the data from your 5 senses and all the positive and negative thoughts you have ever had. This includes your peripheral vision/hearing; data and events you are not consciously aware of, yet are happening in your vicinity. • It stores systematically by word and/or experience association. For example: what do you think of when I ask you to think of “cat?” ... some people respond with black, or fluffy, or mat, or even large yellow tractors depending on what they have associated “cat” with in their past experience. www.creativegoalsetting.com

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The Super Conscious Mind CREATES. • This part of our mind creates our reality. It materializes the results of all thoughts, experiences and associations as stored in the Subconscious Mind. • There are many names given to the Super Conscious part of the mind; some people call it God, Great Spirit, Higher Self, etc.

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Our Mind Fred, the cyclist

Conscious Thinks

Subconscious Stores


Introducing Fred’s thought: I want to win a gold medal

The affect our thoughts have on our day-to-day life are most easily explained with a story of Fred, the cyclist. While Fred is out cycling, he has an idea ... he thinks a thought. His thought is “I want to win a gold medal.” Assume the middle iceberg is Fred’s mind. It is at the tip of the iceberg, on the conscious level, that this thought first occurs to Fred ~ as indicated by the light bulb and the gold medal.


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Subconscious Stores


Fred’s thought is automatically & instantly stored in his Subconscious

In the same instant Fred has this thought consciously, the thought is stored in the subconscious mind. The thought is stored through word and/or experience association. The subconscious mind has already stored every experience and thought that Fred has ever had. In a flash of an instant the subconscious mind scans its memory-bank looking for any previous thoughts or experiences that Fred has associated with winning.


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Subconscious Stores

Distraction


Fred’s thought changes when it is stored with an old belief to: I can’t win a gold medal

In Fred’s subconscious mind is a forgotten memory of an experience that happened when he was about four years old. Fred’s father had entered him in a children’s running race. Fred has the whole experience “filed,” as ‘he saw it’ as a four year old, in his subconscious mind. This experience started with him nervously standing in a line with other children. He was not sure what was expected of him, but he could tell from his father’s eagerness that it was important that he “win.” He was not sure how to “win,” so decided to follow the other children. The starting gun went off; making him jump with fright. The other children started running ... so Fred did too. There was lots of encouragement from the parents. However, Fred heard his father yell: “Stop Fred, stop ... you are running in the wrong direction.” Fred was confused. He stopped because he didn’t know what else to do. He didn’t want to run any more. His father came to him and laughingly said, “You silly little thing, you can’t win when you are running in the wrong direction!” Fred felt he had failed. He felt miserable... after all, he had just followed the other children! Fred’s subconscious mind recorded the whole event, including his father’s words, as a negative experience. The words “can’t win” became associated with racing events in Fred’s subconscious mind. In Creative Goal Setting we call these negative thoughts distractions. At a later date these negative thoughts distract us (keep us) from receiving our goals. We all have many distractions lurking in our subconscious mind, sabotaging our great ideas and efforts. www.creativegoalsetting.com 49


When a new idea, such as “I want to win a gold medal” is recorded, the subconscious mind files it with associated data already stored. In Fred’s case, with negative out-of-date distracting data from his childhood. In this process the thought changes. In Fred’s subconscious mind it is now stored as “I can’t win a gold medal.”

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Subconscious Stores


The Super Conscious receives the message: I can’t win a gold medal

The subconscious version of the thought; “I can’t win a gold medal” is picked up by the Super Conscious part of the mind in the same instant. In fact, this whole process is happening in the same instant of time that Fred is having the original thought of “I want to win a gold medal!” The Super Conscious mind creates the outcomes to all the thoughts it finds in the subconscious mind. It does not judge and/or change the messages it receives as judgment only happens on the conscious level. As mentioned already, there are many names given to the Super Conscious part of the mind; some people call it God, Great Spirit, Higher Self, etc. The Super Conscious is the part of us that connects us to all else; as shown by the bottom Area of the three icebergs where they are joined at the base. Unfortunately, this iceberg model cannot illustrate the omnipresence of this Creative Force.


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Our Mind REALITY Conscious Thinks

Subconscious Stores


The Super Conscious creates Fred’s reality based on: I can’t win a gold medal

The Super Conscious creates (materializes) the stored version of all thoughts in the subconscious mind as outcomes on the conscious level. Remember, what we think of consciously may not be the same as what is stored in the subconscious part of our mind. The way we consciously perceive and experience the outcomes in our life is known as our REALITY. Back to Fred ... he has the subconscious thought “I can’t win a gold medal.” The Super Conscious can materialize this as an outcome in many ways. For many people it would appear on the conscious level as “I am not fit enough”. Now, it just so happens that Fred is physically fit; he is passionate about long distance cycling and does lots of it. But he still has the negative subconscious thought “I can’t win” operating in his subconscious mind. The Super Conscious is creating outcomes based on this negative message in Fred’s subconscious mind. As a result, each time he enters a cycling race he gets a puncture, or takes a wrong turn, or is disqualified for not complying with the rules, or crashes, or is sick and cannot compete, or the event is scheduled at a time when his family has an important occasion he must attend, or at a place that he cannot get to, or he has not got enough money to pay his starting fee ... the list goes on. Fred is being distracted, or sabotaged, by his own long-forgotten memories tucked away in his subconscious mind since he was a small boy.


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Fred’s reality provides feedback on the message his Subconscious is sending.

These outcomes are FEEDBACK for Fred. If he won more cycling races, he would have the feedback that his subconscious mind is clear of, as in not clogged up with, any distractions on this subject. Unfortunately, this is not the case for Fred. Fred has now lost many cycling races due to varying physical reasons.

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Our Mind REALITY

Why?

Conscious Thinks

Subconscious Stores


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With this sort of negative feedback, many people would give up and/or start a destructive cycle of self-talk. This self talk would most likely start with “Why me?” Whenever we ask “Why me?” we are setting ourselves into the potential trap of being a victim of circumstances. The answers to “why me” bounce back from the conscious level in the form of excuses, reasons and justifications, with people and situations to blame. Asking “WHY” only gets answers from the conscious level. If Fred asked “WHY,” he would come up with reasons for not winning; reasons for taking wrong turns, getting punctures, etc ... which he would be able to do nothing, or very little about. He would conclude that other people and/or elements were involved and that it was their fault. Even if there were no other people or elements involved, he would blame himself and justify the events with excuses. Blaming and justifying will not change the outcome! There will always (well, nearly always) be physical reasons for the physical outcomes we experience. Many of these reasons will appear to be out of our control. Some people give up; walking away feeling like they have failed, depending on their personality. Others use their will power to force a change in the situation. For example, using will power to push their body beyond its capability; such as cycling with a damaged knee. Another example being, people with overbearing will power; like school yard bullies, cheating cyclists and other domineering personalities. Fred does not fit either of these two categories, ‘failure’ or ‘bully,’ yet he wants to change his REALITY. It is at this point that Fred uses the Creative Goal Setting process and creates change that takes care of the highest good of all concerned. In other words, success without forcing or bullying anyone or anything. Fred now knows that all the outcomes in his life are the result of the way he thinks, and in due course, re-programs his subconscious mind. He knows that he needs to change what his subconscious mind is storing if he wants to change the results in his life (in his conscious reality).


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Who? = Me When? = Now What? How? Why?


As Fred wants to change his reality; he asks questions that include how or what.

To change the programming of the distracting data stored in the subconscious mind, Fred first needs to be aware of it. He does this by being aware of the FEEDBACK from his REALITY. Sometimes the answers are not so obvious, in which case Fred knows he can do some “soul searching;” investigating what is in his subconscious mind that is causing the negative outcomes in his life. Asking “HOW” or “WHAT” questions is the key to unlocking the secrets of the subconscious mind. Acting on the answers to “HOW” or “WHAT” questions achieves goals. Writing the answers to “HOW” or “WHAT” questions in the Goal Folder accumulates personal wisdom. The answer to “WHO” is ME ... only I can change my subconscious. The answer to “WHEN” is always NOW! The subconscious mind only works in present tense. It stores all data in present tense at the time it happens and keeps it that way until it is up-dated. So avoidance, or procrastination, will not change anything! Keep it simple, by asking only one “HOW” or “WHAT” question at a time, and then wait for its answer. Back to Fred ... He asks: “What do I need to know to win cycling events?” A couple of hours later his conscious REALITY provides a hint that leads to his answer while in a conversation with his father. One of the topics mentioned was about Fred’s sister winning a 100 metre sprint. A vision flashed across the “screen” of Fred’s mind. A vision of when he was a small child and in that disappointing running race (he hadn’t thought of it since!). Through word and experience association his memory was triggered. He recalled lining up with the other children, getting a fright from the starter gun, and then running until his father’s words: “Stop Fred, stop. You are running in the wrong direction”. www.creativegoalsetting.com

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He now understood how he had associated “winning a gold medal” with “You silly little thing, you can’t win by running in the wrong direction”. His father’s words.

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Opportunity



Fred reprograms his Subconscious with I can win.

Fred was able to use this insight in his personal Goal Folder. He opened it to the relevant Area and wrote with coloured makers in the Tangible Expectations column of his Distinctions sheet : “I am winning all cycling events I enter” and “I am a winner” in the Personal Values column. As this was very important to Fred, he also wrote a detailed Thank You Letter thanking his Super Conscious in advance for the best possible outcome he could imagine. Just pumping in positive thoughts or affirmations suggested by other people can miss the mark and only superficially effect the outcome; like painting over the rust in an old car. It is important to write our own affirmations / positive thoughts as we take personal responsibility for programming our subconscious mind. Fred has written a positive statement that is the positive opposite to feedback from his REALITY. This evolves the original thought and/or decision that was distracting his outcomes and turns the distraction into an opportunity for more great things to appear in his life. There are already many existing opportunities in the subconscious mind. The more opportunities in your subconscious mind, the more positive your attitude.


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The Super Conscious creates Fred’s reality based on I can win.

As a result of Fred taking responsibility for his outcomes in his life, by making the necessary changes to his way of thinking, his results in his physical reality (conscious level of his mind) change. By observing his outcomes and changing negative results (feedback created from subconscious distractions) to positive opposite ideas in his Goal Folder, Fred is able to reprogram his reality for more positive outcomes. Even during a race he can ask “What can I do to win this event” to activate inspiration he can use immediately. With this skill Fred started winning cycling events. In Australia, if you win each event, you can eventually win a gold medal. Fred did.


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This is how thought is processed in all areas of Fred’s life.

Our subconscious and Super Conscious minds are creating all the outcomes in our life. The subconscious mind is either working for you, offering opportunities, or against you, offering distractions for the Super Conscious mind to materialize. Distractions temporarily stop you from having what you want in life until you change them. Have a look at your relationship with your body (your self), with other people, money, etc. If there are any negative outcomes in any of your relationships you now have the tools to change the negatives into positives. As an example: school grades, like other achievements, are the result of students’ subconscious thoughts. If they think they cannot do better at school ... they are absolutely right because they are programming themselves for less success! This, in turn, can cause less study, understanding, attention, interest, focus, attendance, etc. School grades can suffer from subconscious distractions happening in other areas of life also. Changing negative situations and/or associations into opportunities in one area of life can have an effect on other areas, including study. If you believe there is a possibility you can achieve something, and you program your subconscious mind positively, then ask “how” or “what” questions for guidance ... you will achieve it. Ask yourself: “How do I change ...?” Or “What do I need to do to get ...?” Or “What do I need to know to receive ...?” Or any similar questions with how or what in them. Wait for the answer. It could come in any form. The answer may appear as an intuitive thought immediately; or come as an inspirational thought triggered by a conversation, an event, an omen, somebody’s behaviour, ... anything. Children, animals, trees, traffic, etc, all become your teachers, your mirrors, your link with your subconscious mind. www.creativegoalsetting.com

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Asking “why” questions can guide you to reflect on and/or research the cause of a situation. Asking “how” or “what” questions can guide you to solutions. And remember; the good things happening in your life are also the result of your subconscious and Super Conscious mind. Remember to appreciate your blessings, your wins, and your achievements, as this reinforces the positive programming of your subconscious mind.


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Thank You Letter There is one more worksheet; the Thank You Letter. In this book I am inserting one on the next page. You can write more on plain paper. When using a Goal Folder, written Thank You Letters are filed in the relevant Area. This sheet has two purposes: •

it is used for clarifying a goal, or goals, in one Area by asking for what you want in more detail, and/or

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The Thank You Letter is written with relevance to only one Area of the Goal Folder at a time. It combines Tangible Expectations and Personal Values. This sheet is optional. A Thank You Letter does not need to be written for every Area. 1. Have a particular problem or goal in mind. Decide which Area of your Goal Folder the problem/goal is most relevant to and write this in the Area box at the top of the Thank You Letter. Write today’s date. 2. Address it to the Super Conscious part of the mind. Call this whatever you like; for example: God, Great Spirit, Higher Self, Being, etc ~ as long as you do not write the letter to another person. 3. Before writing the body of the letter, imagine an ideal outcome. Then using the three Creative Goal Setting rules (using coloured markers and changing colours after every phrase or sentence, writing in positive present tense and only writing about yourself), write it as if it is already happening. You are writing a letter of appreciation in advance. Refer to your Distinctions sheet for ideas. You can only write goals for yourself and how you want to relate to others; not another person’s relationship to you. You can generalize, using the words: partners, children, parents, students, friends, co-workers, etc, but not their name. Only write what you are willing to take responsibility for and/or action yourself. 4. Read the statement at the bottom. Sign it. Review the Thank You Letter from time to time until you receive the outcome you are looking for. Check your wording. If it is not coming to fruition in a reasonable time, look more closely at the wording … are any of the words ambiguous (have hidden meanings/agendas). And take a closer look at your own motivation … do you really want what you are asking for, or does the current situation provide your ego with more entertainment than your solution www.creativegoalsetting.com 59


would? Maybe my blogs at www.creativegoalsetting.com/blog will be of assistance because I love delving into the ongoing mischief created by the ego … for which we have solutions of course. Re-read Our Mind for hints into what you can do about this. You may just need to add another sentence or two to your Thank You Letter to clear a Distraction or two with a positive opposite Opportunity. By the way, worry is negative goal setting! Whenever you catch yourself worrying, think of the positive opposite thought, write it into the relevant Area of your Goal Folder and let go the worry. For example: if you are worrying about how to deal with a situation; write the ideal outcome onto a Thank You Letter and file it in a plastic sleeve in the relevant Area. If it can be covered in one short phrase, then add it to the relevant Distinctions sheet.


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Thank You Letter Area:

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May this or something better now materialise for me for the highest good of all concerned, Yours positively,

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Creative Goal Setting is an ongoing process Put your name on the dotted line on the next page (sheet in your Goal Folder) that says: May this or something better now materialize for me,................ for the highest good of all concerned. As your expectations materialize move the pictures to the Received Goals at the back of your Goal Folder ~ you must have decided to get one by now! You can write lists of your favourite outcomes, including achievements before you had this Goal Folder. Creative Goal Setting tips: •

Add colour and creativity to your Goal Folder. This helps you focus on your personal expectations in a receptive way.

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The Goal Folder is for positive ideas only ... great reading for when you are feeling “blue” or overwhelmed.

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Check the order you have your 12 Areas in. Does the order reflect what you believe is the correct way for you to experience your life. The way you look at life will vary from time to time, and will often vary from the way others demonstrate life.

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Re-write the Distinctions as often as you can, until you are happy that they describe your ideal lifestyle; encompassing all aspects of your life.

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Up-date your Vision so that it generally reflects your Distinctions.

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Remember to keep your Goal Folder open at the Area you are choosing to improve, or in need of urgent attention.

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Keep your Goal Folder in a place where you can view it daily.

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Keep on adding (and removing) pictures so they reflect your ideal lifestyle.

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Study & workplace tricks: use coloured markers in notes and positive wording in assignments.

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Study & work attitude: remember, dare to dream your dreams. If these include “A” grades and/or excellence then go for it! As we do not use dates in Creative Goal Setting you will receive your expectations, or something better, eventually, for the highest good of all concerned


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May these goals or something better now materialise for me ,

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for the highest good of all concerned.


What makes Creative Goal Setting work? Following is an explanation of how Creative Goal Setting works and how you can improve your chances of getting exactly what you write in your Goal Folder. It also explains why you haven’t always received what you have asked for in the past. Your life is driven by your mind. The use of an analogy will explain this better. Imagine a ship at sea. It has a Captain and Crew. In this analogy, the ship represents a human body. The Captain represents the brain in the body. The crew represents the electrical impulses/messages sent from the brain. The Captain is responsible for getting the ship from A to B. As the Captain shouts orders through the intercom, the crew respond; turning the ship and speeding it up as required. But who is responsible for deciding the destination of the ship in the first place? The ship is owned by a Company on the mainland who wants its cargo delivered. The Company represents the mind; the cargo represents the purpose. When you write a Vision you are giving your ship (your body) a destination. As you write Tangible Expectations (goals) you are giving it cargo (purpose). Your Personal Values are the ethics by which the Captain and Crew will live by; how they will behave. If you have no Personal Values you run the risk of mutiny from the Crew, or Piracy from the Captain! The Company needs to communicate all these values and expectations clearly to the Captain (brain). No confusion or “hidden agendas”. This is where Creative Goal Setting comes to your aid. As you will probably discover you do have “hidden agendas” that sabotage your outcomes. In this analogy, it would appear that the Company accidentally sends the ship, Captain and Crew to the wrong destination with incorrect information. The Captain and Crew become confused and aimless while waiting for correct information. If you want to organize your life like a well organized shipping company that manages to get its ship to the correct port, with all the cargo on board, you will benefit from organizing yourself effectively and being responsible for the outcomes in your life. You need to understand that you are the Mind being described. All our minds work in the same way. The fact that we are individual in our approach to life is because when we store information in our minds we associate it differently than the person next to us. How the mind works is of paramount importance to understanding your ability to create the outcomes you want in life. You have read about Fred the teenager, with his goal of winning a Gold Medal for cycling, well here is another example when Fred is an adult ... another example of Our Mind at work: A story of Fred who has an idea; a thought. His conscious thought is “I want a red Ferrari sports car”. www.creativegoalsetting.com

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It is on the conscious level, that this thought first occurs to Fred. That Fred is first aware of the thought. In the same instant that Fred has this thought consciously, it is stored in the subconscious mind. It is stored through word and/or experience association. The subconscious mind has already stored every experience and thought that Fred has ever had. It scans its memory looking for subconscious thoughts associated with red sports cars. In Fred’s subconscious mind is a forgotten memory of an experience. It happened one day when he was five; he was a passenger in the back seat of his father’s car while out driving. Fred’s subconscious mind has the whole experience ‘filed’ as he saw it at the time. A fast red car suddenly overtakes Fred’s father’s slower car. Fred is fascinated and while he watches the red sports car quickly disappear into the distance his subconscious mind notes his father’s reaction. His father’s reaction is a negative “don’t deserve”; expressed mainly with body language. His bottom lip sticks out and his shoulders slump as he grumbles under his breath “he doesn’t deserves that.” In Fred’s five year’s of life he has seen and heard his father do this, or something similar, many times. Fred’s subconscious mind has a section, a file, labeled “don’t deserve”. In Creative Goal Setting we call this old negative thought a distraction. It distracts us from our original purpose and/or direction. When new data, such as “I want a red Ferrari sports car” is recorded, the subconscious mind associates it with the old data. Subsequently changing the outcome to “I don’t deserve a red Ferrari sports car”. The new subconscious version of the thought; “I don’t deserve a red Ferrari sports car” is picked up by the Super Conscious part of the mind in the same instant. In fact this whole process is happening in the same instant of time that Fred is having the original thought! The Super Conscious mind creates the outcomes to all thoughts. It effectively says “YES”, without judgment (judgment happens on the conscious level) to all the messages it receives. There are many names given to the Super Conscious part of the mind; some people call it God, Great Spirit, Higher Self, etc. We are all connected at the deepest level of the mind ~ Super Consciousness. The Super Conscious mind materializes all thought as outcomes on the conscious level; attracting, like a magnet, the relevant people, things, conditions, etc to us. Creating the outcome of all people’s thoughts combined. The way we see life, what we experience as life, is known as reality. Back to Fred ... he has the subconscious thought “I don’t deserve a red Ferrari sports car.” Super Conscious mind can materialize this many ways. For many people it would appear on the conscious level as “I can’t afford a Ferrari and its upkeep”. Now, it just so happens that Fred is a millionaire and can afford many sports cars. But he still has a negative subconscious “don’t deserve” thought running his reality. Creating an undesired outcome. Fred bought, but crashed, his www.creativegoalsetting.com 65


Ferrari on the way home. It was insured and repaired. It had only been in Fred’s garage a week and it was stolen! He had it replaced. He had only had his second Ferrari two weeks when it was vandalized at the local shopping centre. He had it repaired. So far, Fred was more often without his red Ferrari, than in possession of it! These outcomes are feedback for Fred. If he received the red Ferrari without any distractions, he would have the feedback that his subconscious mind is clear on this subject. Unfortunately, this is not the case for Fred. Fred has lost a few Ferraris due to varying physical reasons. Luckily, he knows that all outcomes in his life are the results of his subconscious mind. Fred has a Creative Goal Setting Program remember! He knows that he needs to change the programming of his subconscious mind to change the results in his conscious reality. Fred knows he has to do some ‘soul searching’; some investigating of what is in his subconscious mind causing the negative outcomes in his life. He does this by asking questions. Fred knows the only questions to ask are HOW or WHAT. Asking why only gets answers from the conscious level. If Fred asked “why, he would come up with reasons for crashing his car, reasons for it being stolen and vandalized. All of which he would be able to do nothing, or very little, about because he would also conclude that other people were involved and that it was their fault. Even if there were no other people involved, he would blame himself or justify the events. Blaming and justifying will not change the outcome! To change the outcomes, he needs to change the thoughts residing in his subconscious mind. To change the thoughts, he first needs to be aware of them. Just pumping in positive thoughts or affirmations written or suggested by other people can miss the mark and only superficially affect the outcome. That is like painting over the rust in an old car body. The answer to When is always now! The subconscious mind only works in present tense. It stores all data in present tense at the time it happened and leaves it that way. Fred knows the most simple and effective way to search the subconscious mind is to ask it questions starting with How or What. Asking one question at a time and waiting for its answer. Fred knows to give it at least 30 seconds or so. Fred asked the question: “What do I need to know to change my reality about owning a red Ferrari sports car?” Sometimes we don’t hear the answers … but if we keep on focusing on the question, our Super Conscious aspect of the mind will find a way to communicate what is in the subconscious mind. A couple of hours later Fred received a telephone call from his father. His father chatted about various topics and happened to mention Fred’s mother saying she didn’t feel she deserved all the praise she was receiving for her charity work ... Deserved! Through word association, Fred’s mind flashed a vision across the ‘screen of his mind’ of when he was five and a passenger in the back seat of his father’s car. He remembered the fast red sports car overtaking his father’s car www.creativegoalsetting.com

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and he also recalled from his peripheral vision his father’s reaction. He was easily able to understand how he had associated red sports cars to not deserving. Needless to say, Fred didn’t stay chatting with his father for much longer. He said his farewells, hung up the phone and raced off to his Creative Goal Setting Program. He opened it to Material Things and wrote with a coloured marker:

I deserve in the Personal Values column of his Distinctions sheet. As this was very important to Fred ... he could see how it affected ownership of other material things, he also wrote a Thank You Letter thanking his Super Conscious mind for the best possible outcome he could imagine. Fred has written a positive statement very specifically meeting his needs. This clears the original thought that was distracting his outcomes and turns it into an opportunity for more great things to appear in his life. As a result of Fred taking responsibility for his outcomes and making the necessary changes to his way of thinking; his results in his physical reality, conscious level of his mind, changed. He managed to get and keep a red Ferrari. Our subconscious and Super Conscious mind is creating all the outcomes we have in our life. It is either working for us, creating opportunities, or against us, creating distractions. The distractions give you an opportunity to clear your subconscious mind and have what you really want in each area of life. Have a look at your relationships with other people and yourself. If there are any negative outcomes in any of your relationships you now have the tools to change the negatives to positives. And not by changing other people either! Ask yourself “How do I change … specific outcome… ?”, or “What do I need to do to change … specific outcome …?”, or “What is in the way of me receiving the … specific outcome I want?”, or “What do I need to know to change my reality around this … specific outcome… ?”. Or similar questions. Then wait for the answer. It could come in any form. The answer may appear as an intuitive thought straight away (give it at least 30 seconds); or come as an inspirational thought triggered by a conversation, an event, an omen, somebody’s behaviour, ... anything. Small children, animals, trees, traffic, etc. all become your teachers, your mirrors, your link with your subconscious mind. Whatever you do, don’t waste your time asking “why”; it will leave you being a victim to circumstances, apparently out of your control, until you change your question! And remember; the good things happening in your life are also the result of your subconscious and Super Conscious mind. Remember to appreciate your blessings, your wins, your achievements, as this reinforces the positive programming of your subconscious mind.


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