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Written Expression Week 5


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* Memilih Episode dalam Hidup *

Mau dipikir bagaimanapun, hidup ini akan tetap ada episode dimana diri menghadapi situasi yang sulit, susah, atau pun berat. Sebuah fase yang nanti m engantarkan kita pada episode lain dimana diri bisa tersenyum bahagia, sebelum kemudian episode kembali berganti menghadapi kesulitan. Kalau memang menghadapi kesulitan adalah sebuah keniscayaan, sama seperti halnya dengan kebahagiaan, hilangkan pikiran kalau hidup ini akan berjalan dengan mudah sampai nafas terakhir berhembus. Hanya, kita sebenarnya bisa memilih kesulitan seperti apa yang ingin dilewati dan kebahagiaan seperti apa yang ingin diraih. Ada yang bilang,"Those who achieve more suffer more..!!". Kalimat ini seakan ingin menjelaskan bahwa mereka yang meraih hal-hal lebih dari kebanyakkan orang pada dasarnya menderita lebih banyak dari kebanyakkan orang juga. Ini tidak bisa dihindari, karena semakin besar sebuah m impi, semakin besar pula tantangan yang harus dihadapi. Menderita disini dipahami sebagai bagian dari pengorbanan yang harus dilakukan demi tetap fokus meraih apa yang diimpikan. Albert Einstein mengorbankan mata kuliah l ain selain yang berhubungan dengan ilmu eksak. Nilai di bidang lain sangat rendah, sedangkan di bidang ilmu eksak sangat tinggi. Setelah lulus kuliah, dia sulit mencari kerja karena skil dan pengetahuan yang dimilikinya hanya yang berhubungan dengan ilmu eksak, padahal bidang pekerjaan banyak yang menuntut skil dan pengetahuan tambahan pendukung. Dia jalani hidup setelah lulus kuliah menjadi guru les privat. "Penderitaan" yang dilaluinya demi hanya fokus pada bidang ilmu eksak akhirnya terbayarkan ketika sebuah artikel yang ditulisnya dikoran m enarik minat para ilmuwan. Titik perubahan ini tentu saj a terjadi dalam proses yang memakan waktu dan membutuhkan ketekunan dan fokus. Ingat, kita tidak mungkin hebat disemua hal atau menguasai segala sesuatu di lev el terbaik. Ada saatnya kita harus ikhlas bodoh di satu hal atau biasa saja di hal yang lain. Seperti Einstein, waktunya banyak terkuras dengan mempelajari ilmu eksak, tidak mungkin dia masih punya waktu untuk belajar ilmu lainnya. Waktu yang kita miliki sam a, 24 jam dalam sehari. Mau tidak m au harus fokus dan merelakan hal yang lain, dengan konsekuensi itu m ungkin menjadi kekurangan yang membawa kesulitan dalam hidup kita nanti. Selalu ingat, we can't have everything. That's for sure. However, we can go for something that can bring us everything. Pilih mimpi seperti apa yang ingin dinikmati nanti sebagai bagian dari episode bahagia kita. Tetapi, mimpi ini juga akan menentukan seberapa berat episode kesulitan yang akan kita lewati. Inilah hidup, walaupun saat meninggal nanti kita masih juga akan dihadapkan pada episode kesulitan dan kemudahan. Have a good one!

- - - - Budi Waluyo

“Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence”.

---- Hal Borland


eek 5 Permasalahan dengan Penggunaan Kata Kerja (Verb)  

Ada 4 hal yang harus dipahami agar tidak terjebak pada soal tes yang menggunakan kata kerja yang salah. Ke 4 hal ini akan dijelaskan di skill 33 sampai 36.

Skill 33: Penggunaan Verb bentuk past dan present dalam satu kalimat.

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Jika ada satu kalimat dimana satu kata kerjanya berbentuk past dan satu kata kerja yang lain dalam bentuk present, kalimat ini kemungkinan besar salah. Tetapi, memang ada kalimat yang memiliki satu kata kerja dalam bentuk past dan kata kerja lainnya dalam bentuk present, atau sebaliknya. Bagaimana cara mengetahui benar atau tidaknya kalimat yang seperti ini? Cara terbaik adalah dengan mengecek makna dari kalimat apakah terjadi di masa lampau (past) atau menunjukkan sebuah fakta atau kebiasaan (present).

Contoh 1: He took the money when he wants it. 

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Dalam kalimat ini, klausa he took the money dalam bentuk past dan klausa when he wants it dalam bentuk present. Bila kita lihat makna dari kalimat ini, tidak masuk akal penggunaan past dan present disini. Kenapa? Makna klausa he took the money terjadi di masa lampau, artinya uangnya sudah diambil. Tetapi, klausa kedua terjadi dimasa sekarang yang berarti kapan saja dia mau. Contoh kalimat ini salah. Bentuk kalimat benarnya: He took the money when he wanted it. Sama-sama dalam bentuk past. Atau seperti iniL He takes the money when he wants it. Sama-sama dalam bentuk present.


Contoh 2: I know that he took the money yesterday. 

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Dalam kalimat ini, klausa I know dalam bentuk present dan klausa he took the money yesterday dalam bentuk past. Bila kita lihat makna dari kalimat ini, masuk akal penggunaan past dan present disini. Kenapa? Makna klausa I know terjadi sekarang, artinya dia tahu sekarang, dan makna klausa he took the money yesterday menunjukkan kapan orang yang dimaksud mengambil uang itu (dimasa lampau karena uangnya sudah diambil dan peristiwa ini sudah terjadi. Contoh kalimat yang kedua ini benar. Disini, mungkin ada verb bentuk past dan verb dalam bentuk present dalam satu kalimat asalkan maknanya sesuai dengan keterikatan waktu tensesnya. Jadi, ketika kalian melihat satu kalian yang menggunakan verb bentuk pas dan present di soal TOEFL, cek makna kalimat tersebut agar dapat mengetahui apakah kalimat tersebut benar atau salah.

Kerjakan Exercise 33, lalu siapkan saat Temu Online dengan Mentor. Note: Maksimal salah 2. Jika lebih dari 2, ulangi baca materi kemudian kerjakan kembali latihan. Exercise 33 Petunjuk: Setiap kalimat dibawah ini memiliki paling tidak satu verb dalam bentuk pst dan dalam bentuk present. Temukan yang mana kata ini dan tentukan apakah maknanya sesuai. Lalu, indikasikan apakah kalimat benar atau salah. Contoh: 1. I tell him the truth when he asked me the question. Answer: Verb bentuk present = tell. Verb bentuk past = asked. Kalimat salah karena peristiwa sudah terjadi di masa lampau, maka verb yang digunakan seharusnya told bentuk kedua dari tell. 2. I understand that you were angry. Answer: Verb bentuk present = understand. Verb bentuk past = were (tobe). Kalimat benar. Artinya, dia marahnya di waktu yang lalu dan dia yang si pembicara memahaminya diwaktu sekarang.


3. When he was a child, he always goes to circus. 4. Last semester he reads seven books and wrote five papers. 5. Steve wakes up early every morning because he went to work early. 6. Mark studied at the American University when he is in Washington, D.C. 7. He is telling the teacher why he did not have time to finish his homework. 8. He put some money in his account when he goes to the bank. 9. Tom keeps studying hard because he intended to go to dental school. 10. She is where she is today because she worked hard when she was a student.

Skill 34: Penggunaan have dan had

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Present perfect (have/has + been/verb3) dan past perfect (had + been/verb3) memiliki penggunaan yang berbeda dan kalian harus bisa memahaminya agar dapat mengenali kalimat yang salah dalam soal TOEFL.

1. Present perfect: merujuk pada periode waktu dari masa lampau (past) sampai sekarang (present). Contoh: I have lived in Indonesia for five years. Makna dari kalimat ini adalah saya sudah tinggal di Indonesia sejak 5 tahun terakhir sampai sekarang saat saya mengucapkan kalimat ini. Karena present perfect merujuk pada periode waktu dari past sampai present, kalimat yang hanya bermakna terjadi di masa lampau (past) saja salah. Contoh: In 1995, he has lived in Indonesia. Kalimat ini salah, karena makna kalimat hanya terjadi pada masa lampau, yaitu tahun 1995. Maka, seharusnya bentuk kalimat ini bukan present perfect, tetapi, simple past saja karena merujuk pada periode yang terjadi di masa lampau. Kalimatnya menjadi: In 1995, he lived in Indonesia. 2. Past perfect: merujuk pada periode waktu yang terjadi masa lampau dan berakhir di masa lampau juga, tetapi sebelum sesuatu yang lain terjadi. Contoh: I had lived in Indonesia for five years before I moved to Malaysia.


Makna dari kalimat ini adalah saya tinggal di Indonesia selama lima tahun sebelum pindah ke Malaysia. Disini, perlu dipahami bahwa ketika kalimat ini diucapkan, orang dalam kalimat ini tidak lagi tinggal di Indonesia sekarang. Karena Past Perfect terjadi dimasa lampau dan berakhir di masa lampau, kalimat salah bila past perfect dipasangkan dengan present perfect. Contoh: He had finished the exam when the teacher collects the papers. Klausa kedua setelah connector when dalam bentuk simplre present dan ini salah. Seharusnya, past perfect berpasangan dengan simple past menjadi: he had finished the exam when the teacher collected the papers. Kerjakan Exercise 34, lalu siapkan saat Temu Online dengan Mentor. Note: Maksimal salah 2. Jika lebih dari 2, ulangi baca materi kemudian kerjakan kembali latihan. Exercise 34 Petunjuk: Setiap kalimat dibawah ini memiliki had atau have. Tentukan yang mana verb dan tentukan apakah maknanya sesuai. Lalu, indikasikan apakah kalimat benar atau salah. Contoh: 1. I have always liked the designs that are on the cover. Answer: Verb = have liked dan are. Kalimat benar. Maknanya sesuai dari masa lampau ke waktu sekarang. 2. Because her proposal had been rejected, she is depressed. Answer: Verb = had been rejected dan is. Kalimat salah. Seharusnya bentuk present perfect: has been rejected karena maknanya dari masa lampau ke waktu sekarang. 3.

The students have registered for classes before the semester started.

4. When she had purchased the car, she contacted the insurance agent. 5.

He said that he had finished the typing when you finish the reports.

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She has enjoyed herself every time that she has gone to the zoo.

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He drove to the post office after he had finished preparing the package.

8. After the votes were counted, it had been determined that Steve was the winner. 9.

Last night all the waiters and waitresses have worked overtime.

10. He had fastened his seat belt before the airplane took off.


Skill 35: Penggunaan Tenses yang benar mengikuti ekspresi-ekspresi waktu yang ada

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Untuk ekspresi-ekspresi waktu tertentu, sudah ada kepastian tenses apa yang seharusnya digunakan untuk kalimat itu. Singkatnya, ketika kita melihat ekspresi waktu dalam sebuah soal TOEFL, kita sudah bisa mengindikasikan tenses apa yang seharusnya muncul dalam soal tersebut. Perhatikan ekspresi-ekspresi waktu dibawah ini dan keep that in mind bersama dengan jenis tenses yang harus mengikutinya.

Ekspresi – ekspresi waktu: 1. Past Perfect: by … She had lived in Indonesia by 1987. 2. Simple past: … ago, last …., in…. She lived in Indonesia two years ago. She lived in Indonesia last year. She lived in Indonesia in 2010. 3. Present perfect: since …., for … , lately. She has lived in Indonesia since last year. She has lived in Indonesia for three years. She has been busy lately. Kerjakan Exercise 35, lalu siapkan saat Temu Online dengan Mentor. Note: Maksimal salah 2. Jika lebih dari 2, ulangi baca materi kemudian kerjakan kembali latihan. Exercise 35 Petunjuk: Setiap kalimat dibawah ini berisi ekxpresi waktu. Tentukan yang mana ekspresi waktu ini dan indikasikan apakah kalimat salah atau benar. Contoh: 1. The phone rang incessantly last night.


Answer: Verb = rang. Ekspresi waktu = last night. Kalimat benar. 2. They have finished contacting everyone by 4 p.m. yesterday. Answer: Verb = have finished. Ekspresi tempat = by 4 p.m. yesterday. Kalimat salah. Keterangan wkatu menggunakan by, maka seharusnya dalam berbentuk past perfect, menjadi they had finished .. 3.

The Pilgrims have arrived in the New World in 1620.

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Since the new law was passed, it has been difficult to estimate taxes.

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The cashier put the money into the account two hours ago.

6. All the votes have been countered last week. 7.

The students are writing many compositions lately.

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The senate votes on the law to ban cigarette smoking in public in 1990.

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By the time course was served, all the guests had arrived and been seated.

10. I had not done much more work since I talked to you on Wednesday. Skill 36: Penggunaan tenses yang benar dengan Will dan Would

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Pemahaman sederhananya adalah kita dapat menggunakan will ketika berpasangan dengan simple present dan kita dapat menggunakan would ketika berpasangan dengan simple past. Ini tidak boleh dibalik, misal menggunakan will yang berpasangan dengan simple past atau would yang berpasangan dengan simple present.

Contoh 1: I know that he will arrive soon. It was certain that he would win the game. Kedua kalimat pada contoh 1 ini sesuai dengan pemahaman tentang penggunaan will yang berpasangan dengan simple present, terlihat pada klausa I know, dan penggunaan would yang berpasangan dengan simple past, terlihat pada klausa it was certain. Contoh 2: I knew that he will fail. It was obvious that he will marry her. Kedua kalimat pada contoh 2 ini salah, karena tidak mengikuti aturan yang dijelaskan diatas. Kerjakan Exercise 36, lalu siapkan saat Temu Online dengan Mentor.


Note: Maksimal salah 2. Jika lebih dari 2, ulangi baca materi kemudian kerjakan kembali latihan. Exercise 36 Petunjuk: Setiap kalimat dibawah ini berisi will atau would. Tentukan yang mana kata ini dan tentukan apakah makna kalimat sesuai. Lalu, indikasikan apakah kalimat benar atau salah. Contoh: 1. He knew that he will be able to pass the exam. Answer: Verb = knew dan will be. Kalimat salah seharusnya menggunakan would karena makna kalimat pada klausa pertama dalam bentuk simple past. 2. I think that I will leave tomorrow. Answer: Verb = think dan will leave. Kalimat benar. 3.

Paul did not say when he will finish the project.

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Jake doubts that he would have time to finish the project.

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I know that I will go if I can afford it.

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The police officer indicated that he would write a ticket if he has the time.

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Students will often study in the library before they go to classes or before they go home.

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He told me that he though he will get the job in spite of his lack of education.

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The executive vice president emphasizes at the conference that the board would not change its position.

10. Students will register for classes according to who has the highest number of units.


Latihan Exercise (Skills 33-36) Petunjuk: Tuntukan apakah kalimat dibawha ini benar atau salah. 1. When he receives the money from the insurance company two days ago, he had already rebuilt the house. 2. The position on the city council will be filled next week when the electorate votes. 3. The dentists fills the cavities every time the x-rays show that it was necessary. 4. When the bell rang, the students have left the class. 5. The space shuttle would be launched next month if the weather is good. 6. The special delivery package has arrived by noon yesterday. 7.

It is probably that the students who were tested yesterday were quite successful.

8. After forty-five students had signed up for the class, the class was closed. 9. The parking at the arena was inadequate for the tremendous number of drivers who will want to park there. 10. They have not returned to Rhode Island since they left in 1970.


TOEFL Exercise (Skills 33-36) Petunjuk: Tentukan pilihan yang mana dalam kalimat dibawah ini. 1. In several of his paintings. Edward Hicks depicted the Quaker farm in A

Pennsylvania where he spends his youth. B

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2. Florida has become the twenty-seventh state in the United States on March 3, A

1845.

B

C

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3. After last week’s meeting, the advertising department quickly realized that the A

B

product will need a new slogan. C

D

4. John F. Kennedy’s grandfather, John F. Fitzgerald, serves two terms as the mayor A

of Boston in the beginning of the twentieth century.

B

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5. Fort Ticonderoga, a strategically important fortification during the Revolution, had since been reconstructed and turned into a museum. A

B

D

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6. In making their circulation, Institute researchers assume that the least costly form A

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of energy would be used. C

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7. A twenty-one-year-old man became the second casualty yesterday when he loses A

control of his truck.

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8. Most people had written with quill pens until pens metal points become popular in A

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the middle of the nineteenth century.

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9. In a determined drive to pare its debt, Time Warner is launching a stock of offering B

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plan that would potentially raise $2.8 billion.

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10. The formula used in the study calls for either peroxide or metaldehyde, but A

metaldehyde was not always available. D

B

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TOEFL Review Exercise (Skills 1-36) Petunjuk: Nomor 1-4 adalah soal structure dan nomor 5-10 adalah soal written expression. 1.

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_____ in the United States declined from twenty million in 1910 to nine million in the 1970’s. (A) For a number of horses (B) The number of horses (C) When the number of horses (D) That the number of horses Because of his reservations about the issue, _____ refused to vote for it. (A) who (B) and (C) which the senator (D) the senator Bats avoid running into objects by _____ high-frequency sounds and listening for echoes. (A) the emission (B) emitted (C) emitting (D) they emit It has been estimated that if we intend to stay above the starvation level, _____ the food supply. (A) so we will have to double (B) and it must double (C) which it must be doubled (D) we must double

Choose the letter of the underlined word or group of words that is not correct. 5. ………. To determine an object’s force, the mass and speed of the object must be measure.

D

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6. ……….The most common time for tornados to occur are in the afternoon or evening on a hot, humid

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spring day.

B

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7. ……… Automakers Nissan and Ford and several aerospace research facilities in Great Britain are

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working lately to apply active noise cancellation to entire cars and planes.

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8. ……… When a country in an early stage of development, investments in fixed capital are vital.

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9. ……… John Chapman became famous in American folklore as “Johnny Appleseed” after he plants

A apple trees throughout the northeastern part of the United States.

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10. ……… Inasmuch he kept mostly to himself, the author of The Treasure of the Sierra Madre was

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known as the mysterious B. Treuen.

Kerjakan Questions of the Week (QOW) untuk minggu ini. QOW 5 Structure 1. A microscope can reveal vastly _____ detail than is visible to the naked eye. (A) than (B) than more (C) more than (D) more. 2. Narcissus bulbs _____ at least three inches apart and covered with about four inches of well drained soil. (A) should be planted (B) to plant (C) must planting (D) should plant 3. Industrialization has been responsible for _____ most radical of the environmental changes caused by humans. (A) a (B) the (C) some of which (D) which are the


Written Expression Petunjuk: Pilihan yang digaris pertama adalah A, yang selanjutnya B, dan seterusnya. Jawab dengan menggunakan abjad dan kata yang digarisbawahi, misal no.1 A. theirs.

16. Sociological studies have found that deeply hold values and principles are highl y resistant to change.

17. For centuries large communities of people have living on houseboats in parts of the world where the climate is warm and the waters are calm.

18. Benjamin Franklin made the first bifocal spectacles for self by sawing the lenses of his eyeglasses in half. 19. Not only do artificial reefs provide fish with food and shelter, they also serve as importantly underwater landmarks.

20. The United States Department of Agriculture supervises the quality, clean, and purity of meat.

21. All birds, alike most reptiles and a few primitive mammals, develop from embryos in eggs outside the mother’s body.

22. The expansion of adult training programs has resulted partially from the feminist movement, which encouraging women to improve their skills for the job market.

23. The most significant cosmological characteristic of the galaxies are the red shift in their optical spectra.

24. James Whistler was indifferent to the titles of his painted and even changed the names of some works years after their completion.

25. Duke Ellington’s orchestra, playing his original compositions and arrangements, achieving a fine unity

of style and made numerous innovations in modern jazz.


26. Moles are almost completely blind, although its tiny eyes can distinguish light from dark.

27. Noise is a psychological term referring toward unpleasant, unwanted, or intolerable sound.

28. Elizabeth Blackwell, the first woman medical doctor in the United States, founded the New York Infirmary, an institution that have always had a completely female medical staff.

29. Criminal contempt, committed in the presence of the court, may consist of disorderly behavior, disrespectful, or disobedience of a judge’s orders.

30. The Cubist movement in art was a reaction against traditional methods of portray reality.

31. During the 1600’s skilled shoemakers scarce were in what is now the United States.

32. If a atom loses any of its electrons, it becomes positively charged and can combine chemically with other atoms.

33. The National Education Association conduct extensive research on a great many aspects of education.

34. The pain-killing agent most commonly administered in dentistry is the local anesthetic, who produces loss of feeling only in a specific area.

35. Certain types of computers work properly only in environments with controlled precisely temperatures.

36. The gorilla, while not as curious than the chimpanzee, shows more p ersistence and memory retention in solving a problem.

37. The belief in fairies have existed from earliest times, and the literature of many countries includes tales of fairies and their relationship to humans.


38. Acrylic paint enables artists to experim ent with many colors effects.

39. Salt Lake City, Utah’s capital and largest city, is industrial and banking center.

40. A rat’s sharp teeth can gnaw through wood, plaster, or soft metallic such as lead.


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Why I Don’t Mind The (Other) B-Word

I have always enjoyed telling people what to do: helping, guiding, instructing, organizing, leading, and brainstorming. I have a lot of opinions, I like to share them, and I love being in charge. According to popular opinion, this makes me bossy. I’m completely fine with that. “Bossy” has a lot of negative connotations — pushy, overbearing, controlling. A bossy woman is often

referred to as a ball-buster, angry, irritable. She is, apparently, not someone you want to have a conversation with, work for, or have as a friend. No one likes a know-it-all. The Internet is awash with articles instructing you on how to be less bossy, because a “Miss Bossy-Pants” is the kind of womanno man would want to marry. Powerful women who like being in charge are often the butt of the joke — remember the Hillary Clinton nutcracker? In “Lean In,” Sheryl Sandberg claims that calling little girls bossy discourages them from wanting to lead. “This is personal,” she said of her decision to write the bestselling book. “This is about me not wanting other little girls to be called bossy.” Sandberg believes that she internalized negative messages about her behavior as a young child, leading her to hide her light under a bushel for some years.

Like Sandberg, I was a bossy little girl. Once I grew out of my chronic shyness and found my voice, I liked ordering my sister around in the playroom, dictating what happened to the toy dinosaurs when I played with my upstairs neighbor Max, and deciding what games were played on the playground. I corrected people’s spelling and pronunciation, sometimes more smugly than I like to remember. It never dawned on me that taking charge was a bad thing — except for the times when my great plans ended up with my sister swallowing things she shouldn’t have or missing a lock of hair. (Sorry, Jen).

HANDBOOK INI HANYA UNTUK SISWA SEKOLAH TOEFL I have learned to mind my mouth a bit better, but I’m still bossy. It’s hard for me to see someone doing

something wrong and not intervene — whether it’s swiping their metrocard backwards or taking back a boyfriend who has treated them terribly. With bossiness comes a strong desire to meddle — and yes, that backfires sometimes. I have been accused of not respecting p eople’s autonomy and failing to mind my own business, of being “insufferable” and “a know -it-all.” There is of course something to be said from learning from one’s own mistakes, and I fully understand that “wrong” is a relative concept. But trial and error won’t get you everywhere. Just as I look to other people for suggestions when I don’t know what’s going on — from how to cut an avocado to which

career choices to make — I try to play that role for others. The problems arise when I overstep boundaries — something I’m still working on. But for me, being called bossy has never discouraged me from speaking up when I have something to say — perhaps that’s because I see it as a sort of compliment. Bossy? I prefer boss-like. In Tina Fey’s book “Bossypants” the comedian explains how her bossiness has been an asset to her in her career. “Do your thing and don’t care if they like it,” she advises readers — words I take to heart, but

with a pinch of salt. I don’t think I am bossy at the expense of patience, kindness and knowing when to take the back seat. But being called bossy shows that I’m comfortable being in charge sometimes, that I am vocal and

assertive. It implies that I have some of the qualities required to be an effective manager and a good multi-tasker. It proves that I’m able to advocate for myself — and, hopefully, for my own kids some day. A bossy woman can always be called on to offer advice, opinions and alternatives (they might not always be solicited, but still). A bossy person will tell you whether she’s done something before, and how that worked out for her. A bossy person works from whatever experiences she has under her belt, doing everything in her power to make sure that things turn out for the best. And a bossy woman isn’t someone who can be e asily silenced, stepped over, or dismissed. So go ahead and call me bossy. It doesn’t bother me at all.

Nina Bahadur, Deputy Editor, HuffPost Women

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