I tried to distill down all the thoughts into the baseline principles instead of just narrating every single video I saw. Feel free to add in more insights in the comments and I will update the notes. I'll also add youtube links to the principles that are in the videos littered over youtube. Check these out, and TheFader's notes as well they are really sweet. He's made them into a downloadable PDF. I made this primarily for myself so I have a guide to look at, but I figure some people could probably benefit so I threw em up here. If there are any videos I have missed then hit me up I'll edit the notes. BTW if anyone actually has the official notes I’d love to take a look at them. Here you go… Intent: clarity between your thoughts, words, and actions -You should be expressing yourself vs. expressing themselves -The easiest way is to remove the mental filters -Note: You should WANT to pull, but you shouldn’t emotionally NEED it -> Freedom from outcome -Note: One aspect of this is physicality – you should be physical to express yourself instead of being physical to accomplish something (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaftxHzsHL8) (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=268fopITxKM&list=UUTF6CEoSHHGTuJwk_zppupw... ) Being the buyer, not the seller -Do not place any value externally -Attract all the girls, and select the ones you want -Do not fall into the values of the environment because she has more value than you. View the world through your own eyes -The Best Buy TV analogy: If you see rows and rows of TVs at best buy, you won’t automatically buy the best looking one. You'll turn it on, test it out, try and see its features etc. -You should have positive assumptions instead of negative assumptions, because YOU are the selector. Entitlement: Feeling like you deserve the girl -Step out of the linear progression mindset -Feel like you deserve the pull -For beginners, it’s like a tightrope walk but for advanced it’s like a bridge -The by product of entitlement is indifference (credit Brad, thought I would throw this in here) If you apply these principles, you become that 10. If a model came up to you and said hi while you were talking to a friend of yours, you would at least be interested in what she had to say. The reverse is true. 3 Intent Videos -Video Number 1 (Sports Illustrated Model): Tyler is not viewed as a sexual threat. He holds the conversation, and while most newbies would view this as a successful interaction, it is either going nowhere, or towards a pity number. Intent is roughly 2/10
-Video Number 2 (Lithuanian Girl): Tyler is more physical. He is the buyer not the seller. He is not afraid to impose on her physical space. He cuts the space, and is more expressive. Intent is roughly 6/10 -Video Number 3 (Girl from Taxi Cab): Tyler does the difficult open. He won’t stress out if the girl does not come with him, but he assumes that she is going to come. He is physical off the bat. He draws the girl in instead of pulling the girl in. Strong eye contact. Pickup is lighthearted and fun. The most intent out of the 3. Anime eyes - These are like the Japanese Anime Characters. She is not looking at her friend like that. You have to notice where the eyes are -> she looks at Tyler’s mouth, and immediately Tyler senses the window and goes in – a very quick reaction. “The Dark Knight Rises… Again” Metaphor - Going right to sex is like skipping all the way to the end of the movie – completely retarded. Enjoy the ride. (Be open to a quick pull though) Success with women is about selective blind spots. For example, having the belief that women are all nymphomaniacs or that you are the coolest guy in the world, while it may not necessarily be true, can only help you. Go for the easiest Plan A, then the harder Plan B, then the hardest Plan C (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7dd4CjPXhkg&list=UUTyvDKLQnpIivQzX9qa5sWA...) You should physically lead, assume it’s going to work, and act like it’s normal The girl reacts to Tyler instead of vice versa. He hammers until he gets it. Go in when you see the eyes flit down towards your mouth. This is quick, but noticeable. Tyler has a very low time of reaction - he goes in the moment he sees the eyes. In one instance he actually waits a second too long (after the "signal") before trying to makeout with the girl and does not get the makeout. “I will do you in the bathroom or anywhere you want” – society would look down on anyone saying this to a girl, but the field is proof that this works. Opening -The secret of opening is: you can open as many times as you want. You can reopen if you want. You can open her the next day, or a year from now. Do not conserve your approaches. -Draw a straight line from your feet to the girl and GO. Make yourself do it. -Open the girl immediately when you see her. Waiting will make you MORE dependent on the outcome (Julien realizes that Sasha Grey is standing there and chodes around, and when he eventually does do it it doesn't work)
-Throw yourself into the situation and calibrate after the fact (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oq_SttAJRE0&list=UUTyvDKLQnpIivQzX9qa5sWA...) -Quality of open does not matter. Verbals do not matter -Physical off the bat (Continual theme in all the approaches that go well) -Cut in close, because her reality is what she sees -Break through the wall (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2reDG7UwO4&feature=related) -Ease into it (don’t remember what I was referring to) (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6H4877mev4&list=UU66gDMMJsOmFsRaneAlfSGg...) Rejection -No such thing as rejection -It’s never over. You could open her the next day and she’ll be like “Oh you’re the guy from the club” or you could open her the next year and fuck her. -Play to WIN and go all out -Rejection is not a judgment of you, no one gives a fuck -Step out of the batting average frame and into the social momentum frame -Use rejections to pump your state -Persist Momentum: The process you undertake to go into state -Where does approach anxiety come from? It comes from the fear of death. -In the past, if you showed up in an unfamiliar environment where everyone knew each other it would be another tribe. -If you went up and were charismatic to the girls and fucked them, you would get your head smashed in. -Your emotions are there to protect you from getting killed -Your brain wants proof, not promises when you are in the club -> because it seems like it has just stumbled across another tribe. -Opening and unstifling yourself proves to your brain that it is OK to be charismatic, and at some point you will hit state. -The balance will tip from negative to positive -You cannot control your emotions but you can control the actions you take which will in turn influence your emotions -Do not force state, take action and be patient and it will come. -You should always be congruent, but pushing yourself a little bit -Minimize time between approaches (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=NeE19ueRYa0) (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXWflJS2TkE)- this one is sooooo key (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUJdJIxgI7U&list=UUTF6CEoSHHGTuJwk_zppupw...) (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wpBSriWqUYU&list=UUD4xqm6vJ3K4ntppsE1jL4g...) Tyler vs. Julien: This game that they play forces each other to be icy. Normally, when they lose the girl,
they didn’t have her in the first place. Boyfriend freakouts – stay unreactive. When in doubt, just leave. Crazy girls – stay unreactive Day Game -It is the EXACT SAME as night game. -The two reasons most guys have problems with day game is that they 1) drink at night so can’t approach in the day and 2) feel creepy that they are approaching during the day, so via the law of state transference the girls get creeped too. -In the video, it looks exactly like night game. -Only difference is the logistics -> you should find out where she is going and go with her. If not, try to get her to ditch and come with you on an instant date. If not, get the number. (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYO3aHfn8M0&list=UUTF6CEoSHHGTuJwk_zppupw...) Dance floor – same as day game. Open the girl and then bounce her to a different area where you can get to work. Acting through your own intentions is congruent Whatever you feel, put it out there. Do not manage an impression Julien’s Footage The principles are covered in Tyler’s footage, so I just took down general things I noticed Some things I noticed… -Physical off the bat (Almost always) -Sometimes there are elements of randomness (some guy collapses right next to the girl + Julien and it doesn't go anywhere) -Dictating the rhythm of the interaction -Julien is the oak tree and the girl is the squirrel (Physically and emotionally) -Role playing -Compliance ladders -Tell her what you want -Buyer seller dynamic -His own pace/his own reality (Video of girl in Lil Wayne's entourage - this chick was taller than Julien who looks about 6ft3 - and he keeps hammering and hammering and FINALLY gets it after like 10 tries: check out the "Penetrating the wall of politeness" video) -Taking responsibility off the girl -Backs off at any REAL resistance (He is pulling the girl and she suddenly freaks and is like I have to call
my friend. He lets her, but luckily her friend doesn't pickup) -Disarmament of obstacles (“2 minutes” “Tell him I’m your gay friend” “2 seconds”) -Conspiracy theories (Whispers to girl “I hate you” while telling friend that he loves her) -Once the work is done keep cool and maintain the tension -Acknowledging tension so that girl understands you aren’t a social retard (“Your friends hate me for stealing you away”) -Short circuiting her RAS (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAyHg4zKAWI&feature=relmfu) -Criteria for success/Freedom from outcome (VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylYGcVjsJGk) -"Routines" for self amusement mostly. For example, Julien has tons of pictures of Tyler's son on his phone and uses them to get girls lol, but I get the feeling it's coming from a place of self amusment as opposed to reaction seeking. (Correct me if I am wrong as this was my own insight) ALSO check out these two videos, unsure as to where exactly I would throw them in but they provide some really important insights. -VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvjSTmUWZcA Secrets of Congruence vs Charisma -VIDEO: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzUd8UY-e5s Julien's Fundamental Principles After seeing the Hotseat 2 it makes me realize just how much of their product RSD gives out for free. Obviously the value in the hotseat is actually seeing the instructor break it down for you and seeing what the principles look like and the DIFFERENCE between executing the principles and failing to do so, but all the same 90% of the principles are on youtube or here on the forums. All in all I had a great weekend and if you can, definitely find a way to go.
