Neuro-linguistic Programming For Dummies Neuro-linguistic Programming, or NLP, provides essential building blocks for discovering how people think and manage their emotional states. This practical Cheat Sheet gives ou some useful NLP checklists to keep hand.
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Altering Your Mental State with Music !ere are some different was to think about using the music ou pla to alter our state of mind. Perhaps ou"re stuck in a groove with our listening taste. •
Vary the range of CDs you buy # Change up our selections, from baro$ue to folk, %a&& and blues blues to reggae, and pop and and rock to opera. opera.
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Change the rhythm # rhythm # Compare predictable rhthms with varied and unfamiliar ones to encourage our creativit. 'orld music works well for this purpose.
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Instrumentation or lyrics # lyrics # 'ords can distract( solo instruments tend to encourage rela)ation.
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Intuition # Intuition # Trust our own tastes. *f ou dislike a piece of music, don"t struggle with it. Turn it off # it"s unlikel to make ou feel good.
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Start the !ay !ifferently # !ifferently # 'hen ou feel good in the morning, ou get off to a fling start. Tr swapping the confrontational news channel on the radio for inspiring and uplifting music" music"
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#ow to Change a Personal $elief Learning to change beliefs that no longer support ou enables ou to transform our life in all kinds of positive was. +ou make the switch b working with the submodalities # the fine sensor $ualities of how ou see, hear, or feel our e)perience of the belief. %"
&hin' of a limiting belief you currently hol!( one that you)! li'e to change" Perhaps ou believe that ou have two left feet as regards dancing or that ou"re not a good swimmer.
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&hin' of a belief that you use! to hol! but which( for you( is no longer true" This belief can be something such as believing in the tooth fair. Note the submodalities of our old belief.
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&hin' of something that you belie,e to be certain" *f ou can"t think of anthing, tr the belief that The sun is going to rise tomorrow." Note the submodalities of this belief.
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&hin' of a belief that you)! rather ha,e" This belief can be the opposite of our limiting belief in point , but restated in the positive *"m a good dancer." Perhaps ou want to be better at parking # *"m good at parking" # or want to feel more confident when speaking professionall # *"m a confident professional speaker." Notice the submodalities of the belief ou"d rather have.
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Change the submo!alities of your limiting belief / Ste0 % / to those of the belief that for you is no longer true / Ste0 *"
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Change the submo!alities of the belief you)! rather ha,e / Ste0 / to those of the belief of which you)re certain / Ste0 +"
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Chec'ing In with Yourself to Stay on &rac' *n order to keep on track to where ou want to get, on a dail basis or longer term, use the following checklist of $uestions to ask ourself •
'hat do * want/
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'hat is that going to do for me/
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'hat"s stopping me/
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'hat"s important to me here/
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'hat"s working well/
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'hat can be better/
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'hat resources are going to support me/
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Com0aring the Conscious an! 2nconscious Min!s Neuro-linguistic Programming 0NLP1 recognises that our conscious mind and unconscious mind e)cel at different things. 'hen ou know what each part does best ou can then concentrate our development where it will have most effect. Learning to meditate is one discipline that harnesses both conscious and unconscious processing. &he Conscious Min! 34cels at
&he 2nconscious Min! Is $etter at
'orking linearl
'orking holisticall
Processing se$uentiall
*ntuition
Logic
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2erbal language
3unning our bod
4athematics
Taking care of our emotions
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Storing memories
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3m0loying N5P 5ogical 5e,els
Neuro-linguistic Programming 0NLP1 logical levels are a powerful wa to think about change b breaking it down as a model into different categories of information. 5s ou begin to think about some change ou want to make, ou can ask ourself some $uestions that relate to the different levels •
3n,ironment refers to the factors that are e)ternal opportunities or constraints" 5nswers the $uestions 6where/", when/", and with whom/"
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$eha,iour is made up of specific actions or reactions within the environment. 5nswers the $uestion what/"
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Ca0abilities are about the knowledge and skills, the how-tos" that guide and give direction to behaviour. 5nswer the $uestion how/"
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$eliefs an! ,alues provide the reinforcement # motivation and permission # to support or den our capabilities. 5nswer the $uestion wh/"
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I!entity factors determine our sense of self. 5nswer the $uestion 6who/"
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Pur0ose goes beond self-consciousness to relate to the bigger picture about mission, to ask what for/" or for whom/"
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7,ercoming Fears with the N5P Fast Phobia Cure
The NLP 6ast Phobia Cure takes ou through the e)perience of a traumatic situation in a wa that distances ou from feeling the normal phobic response. 7nl do this in an environment where ou feel safe and with someone who can help ou to sta grounded. %"
I!entify when you ha,e a 0hobic res0onse to a stimulus or a traumatic or un0leasant memory that you want to o,ercome"
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8emember that you were safe before an! after the un0leasant e40erience"
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Imagine yourself sitting in the cinema( watching yourself on a small( blac'an!-white screen"
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Now imagine floating out of the you that)s sitting in the cinema seat( an! into the 0ro9ection booth"
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You can now see yourself in the 0ro9ection booth( watching yourself in the seat( watching the film of you on the screen"
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8un the film in blac'-an!-white( on the ,ery tiny screen( starting before you e40erience! the memory you want to o,ercome an! running it through until after the e40erience when you were safe"
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Now free;e the film or turn the screen com0letely white"
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Float out of the 0ro9ection booth( out of the seat( an! into the en! of the film"
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8un the film bac'war!s ,ery >uic'ly( in a matter of a secon! or two( in fullcolour( as if you)re e40eriencing the film( right bac' to the beginning( when you were safe"
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You can re0eat ste0s < an! = until you)re comfortable with the e40erience"
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Now go into the future an! test an imaginary time when you may ha,e e40erience! the 0hobic res0onse"
&he Four Pillars of N5P
Look no further for a summar of Neuro-linguistic Programming 0NLP1 in %ust four ke points. Pa attention to these four chunks of the sub%ect and ou"ll be well on our wa to integrating NLP into the wa ou go about our dail life. •
8a00ort@ !ow ou build a relationship with others and with ourself.
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Sensory awareness@ !ow the world is different when ou use all our senses.
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7utcome thin'ing@ !ow to think about what ou want.
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$eha,ioural fle4ibility@ !ow to do something different when what ou"re currentl doing isn"t working.
Shar0ening Your 8a00ort in Se,en uic' Bays Rapport is the foundation of valuable relationships and is ke to our success in our
interactions with others. !ere are some was to help ou build rapport fast •
Take a genuine interest in getting to know what"s important to someone with whom ou want to build rapport. Start to understand that person rather than e)pecting the person to understand ou first.
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Pick up on the ke words, favourite phrases, and manner of speaking that someone uses, and then build these items subtl into our own conversation with that person.
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Notice how someone likes to handle information. 8oes the person like lots of details or %ust the big picture/ 5s ou speak to the person, feed back information in this same portion si&e.
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9reathe in unison with the other person.
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Look out for someone"s intention # the underling aim # instead of what the person does or sas. People ma not alwas get things right, but e)pect their heart to lie in the right place.
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5dopt a similar stance to the other person in terms of our bod language, gestures, voice tone, and speed of talking.
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3espect someone"s time, energ, favourite people, and mone. The"re important resources for that person.
2sing the N5P Four-Point Formula for Success
+ou can appl this neuro-linguistic Programming 0NLP1 formula for success to both longterm and short-term goals. So, whether ou simpl want to hold a productive meeting or are planning the holida of a lifetime, here"s the $uick wa to hit our target. %"
now your outcome" Specifing precisel what ou want is vital. +ou can use the outcome frame to fine-tune the desired outcome and satisf the well-formedness conditions.
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&a'e action" :nless ou take that first step, and then the following ones, nothing happens to help ou towards our outcomes, no matter how clearl the"re defined.
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#a,e sensory awareness" *f ou have the awareness to see, hear, and feel what isn"t working, ou can modif our behaviour to steer ou towards our desired outcome.
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#a,e beha,ioural fle4ibility" This point ties in beautifull with the NLP presupposition that *n interactions among people, the person with the most fle)ibilit of behaviour can control the interaction." 7r ou can sa, *f it ain"t working, do something different."