Pleasure Centering Double your pleasure and hers with this one simple technique.
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Disclaimers Every couple's relationship is unique. This manual provides suggestions that are known to work for the majority of our society. However, some or all of the suggestions may not be appropriate for your situation. Anything that doesn't sound correct for you probably isn't. You may need to seek professional or medical counseling for your specific sexual problems. The reader shall hold the author and publishers harmless from any damage that may result from relying upon the contents of this report. While the author and publisher have used reasonable efforts to include accurate and up-to-date information in this manual, there are no warranties, or representations as to the accuracy of such information and no guarantee or promise about effects and treatment of any relationship is given. The information provided in this report is for guidance only and if your relationship problems are serious you should be under supervision of a qualified therapist, counselor, or doctor. Before undertaking any new sexual techniques, you should seek medical advice from your physician, family doctor, or a qualified practitioner. The author assumes NO liability for the contents of this manual, which may or may not be followed at your own risk. Any liability for any impact, problems, or damages is expressly disclaimed. And a final important note – this one about plagiarism! You DO NOT have permission to resell this information. You DO NOT have permission to give it away to someone else. This information is provided under a license that lets you read it, use it FOR YOUR OWN USE, but not give it away, make copies, sell it or resell it. Thank you!
Table of Contents Understanding the Importance of Sex ........................ 5 Take Sex to a New Level Known By Few .............................. 5 The Beginnings of Tantra Sex ........................................... 6 How Pleasure Center Sex Is Unique .................................... 7 Why the Pleasure Center Technique? .................................. 8 Hours and Hours of Sex ................................................. 10 Why I'm Qualified to Teach You Pleasure Center Sex .............. 11
You May See Yourself Here ................................... 13 Three Versions of Sex ................................................... 13 What Internet Porn is Doing to Some Men ........................... 14 The Coolidge Effect ..................................................... 16 The Passion Cycle ........................................................ 18 What Pleasure Center Lovemaking Does for You ................... 19 Why Sex is So Important to Us ......................................... 20
Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want ....... 23 Enjoying Conscious Sex Whenever You Want ........................ 24 Your Brain on Sex ........................................................ 25 Pleasure Center Lovemaking Technique ............................. 26 Never Getting to 10 ..................................................... 27 Starting Slow and Staying Slow ........................................ 28 What to Expect ........................................................... 28
Practicing By Yourself ......................................... 30 Kegels Make Your Sex Life Better ..................................... 30 Kegel Exercise Session 1 ................................................ 31 Kegel Exercise Session 2 ................................................ 32 When You Know the Kegel Exercises are Working .................. 33 Don't Over Do the Kegel Exercises..................................... 34
Practicing With Your Woman ................................. 35 Get Your Woman Involved .............................................. 35 Relaxing and Focusing ................................................... 36 Root -v- Tip ............................................................... 36 Practicing With Your Woman ........................................... 37 What to Try ............................................................... 39 What Happens Next...................................................... 41 Karezza Is Not Selfish ................................................... 41
If There Are Problems, There Are Answers ............... 43 Not Lasting as Long as You Want ...................................... 43 Becoming Connected .................................................... 44 Overcoming Low Libido ................................................. 45 The Problem of Not Coming At All .................................... 46 Focus On Yourself ........................................................ 46 More Benefits and Problems Pleasure Center Lovemaking Solves ............................................................................. 48
Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking ................................. 50 Good Relationship Don't just Happen ................................. 50 Pleasure Center Sex Could Make Society Better .................... 51 Your Needs Don't Have to Match All That Closely ................... 52 The Many Aspects of Karezza .......................................... 53 The Practice of Injaculation ........................................... 54
Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples ................. 58 A Wonderful Enriching Bonding Experience .......................... 58 Before Having Pleasure Center Lovemaking ......................... 59 Setting the Tone ......................................................... 59 When Everything Is Ready .............................................. 61
Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex
Understanding the Importance of Sex Almost all of us have experienced moments of sexual ecstasy. It's What you are about to discover will change your life for the better and forever
a feeling of exhilaration and utopia. It's the most blissful feeling known to man and woman. It connects man and woman like no other experience that humans are capable of. Intense sexual experiences are our greatest source of pleasure.
Take Sex to a New Level Known By Few Humankind has been enjoying sex literally forever. For thousands upon thousands of years we have studied the pleasure of sex and the most pleasurable techniques have been handed down through the years. Has anyone ever shared these most ancient joys with you? Sexual paradise goes by several names. A few are Tantric Sex, another comes from the philosophy of Dasoism, and a more modern name is Karezza. If you're not familiar with these words and practices, you are missing out on your birthright to truly euphoric sex and the pleasure of a lifetime.
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Your personal sexual revolution starts right now!
Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex Once you learn the best way to have sex you will discover new joys of the erotic and expand mere seconds of orgasm into a lifetime of sexual fulfillment. I call this Pleasure Center Lovemaking or Pleasure Center Sex. It shows you how to open your heart, your lover's heart, your most inner emotions, and connects your true sexuality with that of your partner. This is how you and your lover become the soul mates that both of you strive for.
The Beginnings of Tantra Sex Since man began carving in wood, sex has been immortalized through the centuries. While there are many ancient writings enlightening us to the best sex ever, I'm going to focus on Tantra to make a few important points. Some 6,000 years ago, Tantra challenged the beliefs of the time Do you want to live the human experience to the fullest?
that sex should be repressed in favor of seeking a higher spirit. Instead, Tantric sex purported that within the short time we have a human body, sex is the
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Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex doorway to the divine and earthly pleasures. It declared that eating, dancing, and creative expression are sacred acts. The origins of Tantra can be traced to ancient India. The word means "to manifest, to expand, to show and weave". When taken This is what most of us seek in our romantic relationships
in context, it tells us that sex expands consciousness and weaves a man and woman together as a harmonious soul. Although Tantra was practiced as a religion or philosophy in it's day, couples do not need to adopt the entire set of beliefs to benefit from the sexual wisdom our long forgotten forefathers handed down to us. Tantric sex does not come with a long list of rules. It doesn't tell you how to make your woman have multiple orgasms (although almost certainly she will). It leaves almost all of the sexual creativity up to you and your woman. There is only one strongly suggested practice..... Karezza sexual practices teach us to prolong the act of lovemaking and use the potent orgasmic energies we are capable of more effectively and efficiently. Karezza sex suggests we forego orgasms in favor of a much more pleasurable sexual experience.
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Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex the moment. The first thing that is different about Pleasure Center Lovemaking is you slow down, relax, and breathe slowly. Just the opposite of the fast pace, muscle tensing, and panting associated with orgasmic sex. Expanding to the spiritual aspect raises the pleasure you experience exponentially
Pleasure is experienced spiritually as well as physically. It is not linear the way orgasmic sex has the single purpose of achieving a climax. Instead, the goal here is to approach sex as something mystically sensual and even sacred. It's to be experienced slowly and without a beginning, middle, and end. The journey is what is important, rather than reaching the end. While you can chose to have an orgasm to end the sex session, most Pleasure Center practitioners chose not to for a variety of reasons. What Pleasure Center Sex is NOT is a fetish or sex game. It's a pure and clean human experience that is more enjoyable than falling in love the first time. For everyone and for every experience it's about creating your own connection.
Why the Pleasure Center Technique? What you have learned from pornography and Hollywood is far from the best sex techniques you can experience. What porn and Hollywood offer is the best sex techniques for video taping. The reverse cowgirl with the woman on top facing away from the man makes great video because you can see both faces in the same scene but it's not the best sex position for most of us. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex If your thing is taking video of you and your partner having sex, porn and Hollywood will teach you what you need to know. If you want multiple out of this world sexual experiences, Pleasure Center based sex is what you need to learn. Your life is about to become better in many different ways
Besides the pleasure, Pleasure Center Lovemaking helps many men over come many major problems they have with sex: Too much porn causes men to lose interest in real women. Many men can't come without fantasizing about porn or a sexy movie star. Some men find it all but impossible to come inside a woman and have to resort to masturbation Some men have very little experience with sex and want to know more before being with a woman. The reasons for Pleasure Center Sex goes on and on but can mostly be boiled down to one fact. We don't get enough pleasure in our lives. As human beings we thrive on sex and Pleasure Center Sex is at the top of the pleasure list. Unless you prefer being a martyr, you need to at least try these techniques. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Trust me on this for now but soon you will prove it to yourself
Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex Pleasure Center Sex goes way beyond bringing you a few minutes or hours of sexual pleasure. It changes your life in many ways. It gives you a sense of prosperity and the feeling that your life is full - that you have plenty of everything you need and want.
Hours and Hours of Sex A Penn State survey of 50 sex counselors concluded that the average length of time for intercourse is 3 to 13 minutes with 3 to 7 minutes being desirable. Time of intercourse was measured as beginning when the penis enters the vagina and ending when the man ejaculated. Pleasure Center intercourse typically lasts at least a half hour and with practice can last more than an hour. Here's why... The traditional sex that most of us engage in is all about stimulating the genitals of both the man and the woman until orgasm is achieved. We tense up our muscles and our breathing becomes shallow and rapid. The only point of the sex is obtaining an orgasm and all of our effort focuses on that single goal. The stimulation becomes more intense as the orgasm approaches. Finally the climax is reached. According to Dr. Sari Locker, the average male orgasm lasts 15 seconds and for women the average is around 30 seconds. Pleasure Center Lovemaking is NOT about stimulation. It's about sensation. The difference is incredible just as the results are. I'll go into depth about the instructions later but instead of tense Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex muscles and heavy breathing it involves relaxing and normal breathing. You control the level of sexual sensation you experience and this allows you to postpone and even avoid orgasming altogether. Hence, this relaxed sex technique allows intercourse for any length of time you and your partner chose.
Why I'm Qualified to Teach You Pleasure Center Sex I'm Sam Cook and I've been around about half of a century. I had trouble with sex in my youth. Women tried to get me to have sex with them when I was as young as 12 but I freaked out. My friends were having sex in junior high school but not me. I was lame with women in my youth. As a young man, I had an early business partner that had a gift for picking women up. He was a pick up artist and taught me his tricks. Suddenly it was easy for me to pick up women. I dated some of them and had one nightstands with a few. I became convinced that was the life for me and that I would never commit to a long term relationship. Until I met an incredible women at a singles event. No more than 15 minutes into our first conversation, I was convinced that I'd marry this women. That was more than two decades ago and we're still married and extremely happy. Like most married couples, over the years, our sex life became routine and even mundane to some extend. It had once been thrilling and more than satisfying. I wanted that back. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Understanding the Importance of Sex I started studying Tantric, Daoist, and Karezza sex. It changed You too can have a fully satisfying life
my entire approach to sex for the better. Today, my wife and I have sex almost every day and intercourse lasts for between half an hour and an hour. Our life together has always been good but now it keeps getting better and better every day. I make no secret of what we do and how we do it. Sam Cook is a pen name. I'm a rather well known person and although discussing sex doesn't bother me, there are people in my other businesses and life. Some other people that I know disagree with my opinion about openly discussing sex. I don't want to offend them so I use a pen name. One last fact about my qualifications. I moderate one of the larger online forums for people with sex problems. If I haven't personally experienced something, I've consulted with experts on the subject. Usually several times. With that out of the way, let's take a look at some of the key draw backs with traditional highly stimulating sex...
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here
You May See Yourself Here Do you want to grow old as soul mates or arguing evermore? Keep with the traditional type of sex and there are chemical reasons in your body that may dictate that you have less sex and more arguments. Use the Pleasure Center techniques and you'll almost certainly become closer and happier with each other as time goes by.
Three Versions of Sex For millions of years the primary reason for having sex has been procreation. This is the mating drive version of sex. Today, there are some seven billion of us humans on the planet. However, as recent as during the Roman Empire it's estimated that there were as few as 50 million of us. Mating sex has certainly done its job and shortly we'll look at the very long term effect this has on how the male brain deals with sex. It's something called the Coolidge Effect. Another of the three types of sex we engage in is recreational sex. There are many versions of this. A few include the anticipated weekly Saturday night sex with your regular partner, men seeking out prostitutes, masturbation, and more recently in Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here the human experience - internet porn. Internet porn addiction has become a big problem that we'll deal with shortly. It's a new Finally, what we are mainly dealing with in this course is spiritual human experience sex. Spiritual sex is different from procreation and recreational that you sex in the fact that ending in an orgasm is Not the goal. Instead, must try
the journey is more important than the destination.
What Internet Porn is Doing to Some Men Men can easily become addicted to internet porn. This can have I hope this isn't you but if it is, you simply must stop to truly enjoy sex again
devastating consequences to your sex life. I've known men that can't get up and go to work without masturbating to internet porn first. And then they get in trouble at work because they're using their employer's resources to view porn instead of doing their work. Internet porn addiction is progressive. Eventually, heterosexual sex scenes are no longer enough to get some men hard so they can masturbate. They turn to fetish sex, homosexual sex, and other variations of sex they never thought about before. And that's not even the worst of it... When an internet porn addition gets bad enough, a man can't have sex with his woman any more. He develops a self-induced erectile dysfunction. A real woman no longer does anything for him.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here Internet porn is different from the dirty magazines your father and grandfather used to hide in their sock drawer. The truth is, until a few years ago most men were never exposed to anywhere near the amount of porn in a lifetime that they can view in a single evening today. It's about the Coolidge Effect and the Chaser Effect. First the Chaser Effect and internet porn. The Chaser Effect is caused by the hormone dopamine. This hormone tells your brain it wants another orgasm. It's where the word "dope" comes from to describe a drug addict. Dopamine brings on the Chaser Effect, a strong desire for another orgasm. As more and more porn is viewed, the dopamine hardwires your brain. It creates a nerve circuit that is very easy for the dopamine to flow through. That's what causes the addiction. With the old fashion Playboy magazines, men might have 20 pictures of nude women to look at each month. With internet porn, they can easily see ten times that much or more, in a single viewing. The dopamine starts gushing through their brains. It might be time to make a positive change in your life
If internet porn is a problem that you suffer from and you can't have sex with a real women, Pleasure Center Sex can help you. But first you have to completely stop viewing porn for a couple of weeks. Following what you will learn in this course will replace that dopamine with the "love hormone" Oxytocin and you will feel soooo much better. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here Next is what you need to know about the Coolidge Effect...
The Coolidge Effect The Coolidge Effect is also known as the Mating Drive. It comes from our primitive (caveman) past as the way men spread their seed to produce as many healthy children as possible. The Coolidge Effect is not limited to humans. It has been observed in every mammal species that has been studied. And it has been studied a lot. The most frequent study has been with mice. What has been observed is that a male mouse introduced to a willing female will copulate several times but will then become tired of the same female and stop although the female encourages him to continue. However, when repeatedly introduced to new females, the same mouse will copulate until exhaustion. This is the primitive male brain at work. He stops having sex with the same mate when he is reasonably sure that she should be pregnant. He repeatedly has sex with multiple partners with the intent of spreading his seed to have as many children as possible. The Coolidge Effect in humans
The Coolidge Effect shows up in many scientific studies. For instance, many sex therapists treating men and couples for erectile dysfunction state that it's not uncommon for the man to secretly reveal to the therapist that although he suffers erectile dysfunction with his long term partner, he has a mistress on the side and ED is not a problem with her. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here The Coolidge Effect received it's name in a peculiar manner. The name came from a joke once told by former president Calvin Coolidge. It seems the President and his wife were on a tour of an experimental government farm. Each was being shown around by separate guides. Mrs. Coolidge came across a chicken yard where a rooster was heatedly engaged in sex with the many different hens available. She asked the chicken yard attendant how often this took place. The reply was dozens of times every day. Mrs. Coolidge commented that the attendant should be certain to point this out to the president when he visited the chicken yard. The attendant obliged the first lady. Upon being told, the President asked, “Same hen every time?” The reply was, “Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time.” The President replied: “Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge.” The reason I bring up the Coolidge Effect is that erectile More good dysfunction is more often a mental state than a physical state in news about Pleasure long term relationships. The good new is that Pleasure Center Center Lovemaking often overcomes erectile dysfunction. Lovemaking
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here Another almost universal symptom of orgasm-based sex is the Passion Cycle.
The Passion Cycle You might be intrigued by the words the Passion Cycle but you won't be as soon as you understand it. The Passion Cycle is about chemicals released in the brain during orgasm that cause both men and women to lose interest in sex after orgasm. The truth is that orgasms leaves us mentally unhappy. The first sign of the passion cycle is when the man rolls over and goes to sleep following orgasm or gets up and leaves. Clearly, he is done with his current partner. Another sign of the passion cycle is the fact that most men can't get another erection after orgasming with a long term partner. Yet, the same man can immediately obtain a new erection if another woman comes on the scene. Typically, the passion cycle lasts about one week for men and can last close to two weeks for women. During this time, long term partners can become moody towards each other and generally don't want to spend much time together. It lasts up to two weeks in women because that is about how long it takes her primitive brain to determine if she is pregnant from that particular man. Orgasms lead couples to be more distant from each other because the physical contact is so short and the emotional Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here communication is almost nonexistent. Most women will attest to this because many are always looking for a stronger emotional Your love attachment in the relationship. While men don't often admit life is about their need for a more emotional relationship, you want it and to become very you won't want to live without it after practicing what you learn emotional
in this course.
If you have ever had a confusing sexual relationship, it was more than likely caused by orgasms. The chemical dopamine is released in the brain during the lead up to orgasm. Dopamine is also called the "feel good" hormone. With orgasmic sex, dopamine tells the brain that it wants and needs another orgasm. Dopamine conflicts with the passion cycle that drives couples apart. It's this conflict and confusion that brings long term couples together for there ritual "once a week" orgasmic sex - as brief as it is. Are you ready for real change?
You no longer need to settle for sex that creates drama and tension in your long term relationship. Pleasure Center Lovemaking minimizes the dopamine by replacing it with the "love hormone" - Oxytocin.
What Pleasure Center Lovemaking Does for You Pleasure Center Lovemaking is about raising the levels of oxytocin in your body. Oxytocin is mainly produced by the posterior pituitary and secreted into the blood. Oxytocin is also Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here secreted within the brain and from a few other tissues, including the ovaries and testicles. Increased levels of oxytocin have been found to produce many positive benefits. It was originally found to be released in pregnant women in large quantities to naturally ease the birth process. It was soon found to increase the bonding between mother and child as a result of breast feeding. On going studies have found that it amplifies the bonding for both men and women. In adult relationships it has been found to: Only a few of the many benefits keep reading
Dramatically increase passion resulting in soul mating sex. Stops the repulsion that comes from the passion cycle. Creates deep feelings. The very deepest love and passion any human can have.
Why Sex is So Important to Us As a man, your sex drive makes you a hunter. Women are different. Their sex drive makes them to want to create a home out of a cave. Men love sex and we are very forward about getting what we want. Most of us feel that we don't get enough - that dopamine Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here feel good hormone at work but in conflict with the passion cycle. The truth is most of us don't get as much as we want. As Sigmund Freud would say, not getting enough sex flows over into all of the other Soon you will feel you are getting plenty of sex and have plenty of everything in your life
aspects of our lives. It makes us want toys and electronics and other stuff. We never feel like we have enough of anything. As long as we are not sexually fulfilled, we want more of everything. You can have a perfectly good woman and still want a different one. What you are learning is that the ancient eastern sex techniques fulfill your sex needs. You'll soon be having as much sex as you want and your desires will be fulfilled. You can still have your toys and maybe even become wealthy but you will feel that you already have plenty and you won't do it out of greed. The personal qualities that you develop from Pleasure Center Sex will attract women, wealth, and other things you want in your life.
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Last longer and Prosper You May See Yourself Here With Pleasure Center Sex, you decide when and how much sex you want. You decide how long the sex goes on - half an hour, an hour, an hour and a half. It's no more complicated or difficult to do than it is deciding what you want for lunch or dinner. The decision is completely up to you. Make a plan and enjoy.
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Last longer and Prosper Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want
Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want Most people's knowledge of sex is limited to what they learned when they when through puberty. Sex education teaches kids about the mechanics of sex, encourages safe sex, and tries to tell them to wait until they are older to have sex. And if they are going to have sex to use a condom. Of course, most teenage boys know more about the internet than their parents so they can easily access online porn even if their parents try to prevent it. And 13 year old boys learn about sex from other 13 year old boys or the much more experienced 14 year boys. From masturbation and intercourse, we learn how to achieve a very short burst of pleasure as a climax or orgasm that ends the sex session in mere minutes. Bottom line is society does a terrible job educating us about something so important to the human experience as sexual enjoyment. Internet porn, Hollywood movies, sex education, and Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want We've had other teenage boys do nothing to teach us how to best enjoy sex.
the answers Yet it's been handed down to us in the teachings of ancient for thousands philosophies. of years
Enjoying Conscious Sex Whenever You Want Sex is like everything else in the world. You can learn about it and become better at it. You can learn what the masters of Tantra and Daoism learned and pasted along. Conscious sex is what Daoist, Tantric, and Karezza sex is all about. It's about learning how to best enjoy sex, managing it and mastering it. Instead of 15 seconds of orgasm, you can have minutes and hours of the best pleasure you will ever enjoy. Pleasure Center Sex brings you: The ability to stay hard much longer. More pleasure in your life. Solves issues with premature ejaculation. Solves issues with not being able to come. Solves multiple issues with erectile dysfunction If you can't get hard. If you can't sty hard. If you don't get hard enough.
It will be a complete break through for you. Never lack for sexual pleasure again. No more wanting or needing. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Your Brain on Sex Neurochemical changes take place primarily in the limbic system, a very old part of the brain with circuitry that is common to all mammals. These ancient limbic circuits control almost all bodily functions. The limbic system's job is to keep you alive and reproducing. It does this by avoiding pain and repeating what is pleasurable. The limbic system is the seat of emotions, drives, impulses, and desires – including sexual impulses. The lowest part of your brain controls your best pleasure. This mating type of sex ramps up your breathing and tightens your muscles and accelerates your heart rate and sends your entire body pushing towards an orgasm. Immediately after the orgasm, the tension releases and you feel spent. Wouldn't you rather have something much better?
All that tension actually blocks you from having all the pleasure that you are capable of. It doesn't need to be like that and shouldn't be like that. You can become aroused and relaxed at the same time. This is the key to Pleasure Center Sex. Don't think you can have an erection while relaxed? Think about when you wake up in the morning with an erection. You're so relaxed that you aren't even conscious when you get those erections.
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Last longer and Prosper Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want
Pleasure Center Lovemaking Technique You don't have to take up the entire Tantra Philosophy to have better sex. The philosophy helps but since we're not dealing with the entire philosophy is the reason I use the name Pleasure Center Lovemaking. Another name for it is Karezza. Here we are only dealing with the technique and touching a little on the philosophy. Don't miss this important section
You are going to learn how to focus and even meditate on a specific part of your penis that you may not even be aware of. It's the root. Not all of the penis is outside you body. Your pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle is between your testicles and rectum goes from your pubic bone to your tailbone. You can feel it by squeezing the muscle as if you are stopping the urine flow from your penis. The PC muscle or root of your penis is the heart and soul of Pleasure Center Lovemaking . There are not a bunch of complicated steps or tricky maneuvers involved with this. The entire way to better sex is by being able relax the root of your penis. I don't mean just have a mental image of it relaxed, I mean actually relaxing it during intercourse. It's not difficult but it does take some practice and you'll get better at it over time.
Time to My suggestion is that you begin practicing relaxing your PC take action
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Last longer and Prosper Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want Lovemaking. Learn how to meditate with the root of your penis as the center of your meditation. Relax, relax, relax. When you master relaxing that muscle, you delay orgasm. When you delay orgasm, you obtain a higher level of arousal for longer periods of time.
Never Getting to 10 You want to feel as if time has slowed down. You don't want to stimulate yourself into an orgasm. Your woman may have several orgasms but you need to avoid one. One thing you can do to help control an orgasm is think of a scale from 1 to 10. One being no sexual arousal at all and ten being an orgasm. Your goal is staying around 5 or 6 and occasionally rising to a 7. Try not to get up to 8 or near 9. Getting up to 8 or 9 and trying to back down is hard to do. If you do, it becomes too easy to spill over into an orgasm. Getting up to 8 or 9 is called Edging. More than likely you will fail to stop from having an orgasm the first couple of times you try. Just remember the sex is over when you do and you'll have to wait awhile to try again. However, just
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Last longer and Prosper Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want by trying you'll quickly see how much better Pleasure Center Lovemaking is than orgasmic. Now you know the secret
By staying relaxed, focused on the root of your penis, and staying around 5, 6, or 7, will bring you more pleasure for longer than you have ever experienced before.
Starting Slow and Staying Slow We'll go into this more in the next chapter but non-orgasmic intercourse is about going slow. There will be some movement but not enough to stimulate you into orgasm. Remember orgasms are about fast swift stimulations. Pleasure Center Lovemaking is about much slower sensation that goes on much longer.
What to Expect Never be sexually frustrated again
You can do this with a full erection, semi erect, or flaccid. It may seem strange to you right now but sometimes it's best when it's flaccid. You are not going to have to learn how to control your ejaculation. This is much simpler and you stay relaxed. You can have an orgasm at the end if you want to but with Pleasure Center Lovemaking you can prolong the pleasure of sex Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Enjoy Sex As Often and For As Long As You Want before having an orgasm. You can have sex every day or several times a day. You won't grow tired of it. It won't become routine. Every experience will be a new one.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing By Yourself
Practicing By Yourself You will want to practice by yourself before engaging with your woman. You practice meditating on relaxing the root of your penis several times a day and for several minutes. Learn how to really relax that muscle. You also want to strengthen the same muscle.
Kegels Make Your Sex Life Better Dr. Arnold Kegel first published how to do these exercises in 1948. The exercises strengthen the muscles on the pelvic floor. Besides improving Pleasure Center Sex, these exercises have several other uses: Reduce urinary incontinence Reduce urinary incontinence after childbirth Reduce or eliminate premature ejaculation Increase the size and intensity of erections It's easy to do with incredible benefits
Your pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle can be found by contracting them to control your flow of urine. It's same muscle that controls the flow of semen. It also determines the firmness of your penis during an erection and the strength of your ejaculation. Doing Kegel exercises will not only provide you with more sexual pleasure but doing the exercises will help continue having Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing By Yourself erections well into your advanced years. Staying healthy means exercising your muscles. Having sex takes muscles and you need to exercise your PC muscle if you want to improve your sex life. Once you find your PC muscles, you need to practice knowing exactly where they are. If you have weak PC muscles, you are likely to over compensate by exercising your abdominal, buttocks, or thighs instead. Those muscles need to stay relaxed while you exercise your PC muscles. You can perform Kegel exercises anytime and anywhere without Easy to follow instructions drawing ay attention to yourself. All you need to do is squeeze or and easy to clench these muscles rapidly and hold. do
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing By Yourself Quickly squeeze and release repeatedly for 5 seconds for each set Take a 5-second break between repetitions. Set 3 Number of repetitions - 5 Tighten and hold your PC muscle for 30 seconds for each set Take a 30-second break between repetitions That's all there is to it. Do these every day for one week.
Kegel Exercise Session 2 (week 2) Set 1 Number of repetitions - 10 Squeeze and hold your PC muscles for 5 seconds Release and repeat without a break Set 2 Number of repetitions - 3 Rapidly squeeze and release 10 times Release and repeat without a break Set 3 Number of repetitions - 3 Squeeze and release 10 times. Alternate between squeezing for 10 seconds and 5 seconds. Set 4 Number of repetitions - 1 Tighten your PC muscle and hold as long as you can. You goal is holding it for 2 minutes. Do these every day for two weeks using session 1 exercises the first week and graduating up to week 2 exercises the second week. If at the end of week 2 you can squeeze and hold your PC muscle for about two minutes, your PC muscle is strengthened to
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing By Yourself the point you can expect success with Pleasure Center Lovemaking. Once you strengthen your PC muscles, you want to keep them in shape. Use the exercises from week two to do this. Perform these exercises three times a week to aid you in controlling your ejaculation and help your maintain a firm erection well into old age. Take it to a For ultimate Pleasure Center Sex, continue strengthening your whole new PC muscles until the time you can squeeze and release everyday level
to the point you can perform 100 squeezes continuously without a break.
When You Know the Kegel Exercises are Working Both you and your lover will know the Kegel exercises are working because your penis will be harder and you will have better control of your penis, ejaculation, and orgasm. If you've previously had trouble with premature ejaculation, you will notice it becoming much less of a problem. I recommend these exercises before seeing a doctor about a little blue pill or any other remedy. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Don't Over Do the Kegel Exercises Remember, you're strengthening these muscles. It can be tempting to want to strengthen as fast as you can when the goal is improving your sex life. But your PC is like any other muscle. It's important to give it a rest so it can heal between sessions. How quickly your PC muscles get into shape is a personal question depending what shape it is in when you begin. The number of sets and how long you hold the muscle clenched are only recommendations. If it's too much for you in the beginning, do less for less time. It may take some time before you notice a marked difference. If you're already in good shape you might be able to start out with the exercises from week 2 right away. If you're really not in shape at all, you may want to consult with a medical professional to be sure you can start these exercises at all. One thing that is important is to not exercise any other muscles when you are exercising your PC muscle. Especially if your PC muscle is weak. If it is weak, it can be difficult to isolate it. If you are contacting other muscles, you need to stop the session and start again with all other muscles relaxed.
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Practicing With Your Woman After you've been doing the Kegel exercises for a while and can do them easily, you know you are physically ready to begin Pleasure Center Lovemaking with your woman. But be sure you're mentally just as prepared and can focus on relaxing the root of your penis.
Get Your Woman Involved Women can improve their sex life with Kegel exercises as well. Try this test to see if your PC muscle is becoming stronger
One way to gauge progress right from the beginning is by getting her involved. You can test your beginning point by putting your erect penis into her vagina. Without thrusting or moving, both of you squeeze your PC muscles. How hard she contracts around your penis and how hard your erection becomes is your starting point. It also stimulates her G-spot and tickles you. Repeat this test over the coming weeks to determine how much progress is being made. When she begins doing Kegel exercise and strengthens her PC muscles, she will begin having more intense orgasms and be able to squeeze your penis while it is inside her. Sex for both of you becomes much better. Remember, the PC is your Pleasure Center. During Pleasure Center Lovemaking, this is where you focus all of your attention and you want to learn how to keep the PC muscles relaxed to Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman avoid orgasm. The more you practice the Kegel exercises, the faster you'll be able to focus your mind on this muscle.
Relaxing and Focusing When you begin the Kegel exercises, don't forget to take time to only focus on the root of your penis without doing the exercises. You need to do both but do them separately. Make it part of your Kegel routine by starting your routine, not doing the Kegel exercises but by focusing on the root of your penis and making it relax. Then do your Kegel exercises. At the end of the exercise routine, again take a moment to focus and relax the root of your penis. Doing both of these will have you enjoying Pleasure Center Lovemaking very quickly.
Root -v- Tip I get the question all of the time about why you need to focus on the root instead of the tip. After all, it's the tip that gives you most of the pleasure when in engage in orgasmic sex. It's the tip of the penis that becomes over stimulated until you orgasm. We are working to get you away from stimulation and into sensation. That Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman means taking the focus off the tip and redirecting it to the root where you will begin both experiencing sensations and generating sensations in your woman. It all centers around the root. Instead of only experiencing brief stimulation from the tip, you will begin sending sensations out to your entire body. Another important tip to remember
When this starts happening, it's important to keep your mind focused on the root of your penis. If you try to shift your focus to the sensations going to your body, they will stop until you direct your focus back to the root of your penis. It will take some time for you to get good at this because there is always a big temptation to give into the short-lived pleasure of orgasm. That's why it's important for you to practice focusing and relaxing the root at least a few days if not a full week before having Pleasure Center Lovemaking with your woman. It will take a little time but you will get better at Pleasure Center Lovemaking. It's your business if you decide to end your sex session with an orgasm or not. What I can tell you is you will get better at Pleasure Center Lovemaking faster if you avoid the orgasms all together.
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The fun begins here
Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman First, don't engage in much if any foreplay. If you regularly try to please your woman this is where it probably begins. So, no oral sex or stimulating her genitals. That's all about stimulating an orgasm. A little gentle touching of the breasts is usually okay. When you start with Pleasure Center Lovemaking you may not even have an erection and she may be too dry for you to enter her. Use lubricant to help get started. There are dozens of personal lubes on the market. And several kitchen products that work. You can use coco butter or olive oil. You can apply the lubricant to your penis or to the lips of her vagina. Then you decide what position you want to be in and she begins entering your penis into her vagina - flaccid or erect. Once in your woman, dwell there. Limit the amount of motion involved. Over time, you will learn how much motion is right. You need to be focused on your Pleasure Center. She should focus on her breasts. The goal is enough stimulation to reach and stay in the 5, 6, or 7 range on a scale to 10. The first few times, your woman may Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman encourage you to go fast and furious. This is especially true if that is how you've done it in the past and that is how she has reached orgasm. Keep it slow to slowly bring it up to a 6 or 7. Now you need a signal or to talk to each other about staying at that point. She may start over stimulating you and you need to tell her to slow down. Another good tip
Don't use rhythmic thrusting motions that are used for orgasmic sex. That's all about stimulation. Use non-rhythmic motions to get to the level you are seeking. While focusing on your Pleasure Center, wait for the sensations to grow in intensity. Remember not to shift your focus to the sensations because that causes it to stop. It can take a little time and a few sessions before the sensations become truly intense. We have become desensitized by porn and Hollywood style sex.
What to Try If your woman has been using a vibrator a lot, it can take a few months before she fully regains her sensitivity. If she needs it, you might want to give her some clitoral stimulation in the beginning but this should be reduced over time as she regains her sensitivity. Ultimately, she wants to replace the clitoral generated orgasm with sensations generated from her breasts and vagina. You can position yourself so that your penis provides some clitoral stimulation but keep the motion to a minimum. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman You can also try different positions. The missionary position works and you might want to try beginning there. Another common one is to spoon and enter her from behind. The cowgirl and reverse cowgirl also work. You are getting all of the information you need to change your sex life for the better
However, a favorite of people that practice Pleasure Center Lovemaking is the scissors position. In the scissors position, the man has his head down towards the woman's feet and he wraps both of his legs around one of the woman's legs. She is in the same position. She now has his legs up towards her head and her legs wrapped loosely around one of his legs. If you've practiced your meditation, you should have no trouble focusing your attention on your Pleasure Center after you enter your woman. Stay focused on the root of your penis, keep it relaxed, and keep motion to a minimum. All this time, you want to be kissing, tasting, stroking her gently, and massaging her. Caress her breasts. However, be sure to stay focus and relaxed in your Pleasure Center. Your erections will come and go. You are not likely to have a hard erection the entire time. But you can make love this way for a long time, An hour or more is not unreasonable. As you become more practiced, experiment with different amounts of motion. Keeping the motion non-rhythmic allows Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman more motion without edging or orgasming. A little motion should help you maintain an erection most of the time. Remember, your goal is to stay at 5, 6, or 7 on the scale of 10 without edging toward 8 or 9. She may start working herself up towards an orgasm. You probably want to have a talk before the sex starts. Let her know you don't plan to have an orgasm. Let her know that if she starts over stimulating you that you will ask her to stop or back down.
What Happens Next You can still have the orgasm. You can enjoy Pleasure Center Lovemaking for an hour and then finish with an orgasm at the end. Just remember, you're going to have issues with the passion cycle. As you practice and find what works for you, you'll start sensing pleasure throughout your entire body. The magic begins after you've been in her for a while. For a lot of people the real pleasure doesn't begin for about half an hour. It's difficult to explain but I call these periods of the most pleasure "Valley Orgasms" or "Otherworld Orgasms". These can go on for a long time and you will have multiple of them during each sexual encounter.
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Last longer and Prosper Practicing With Your Woman person gives the other an orgasm during hot sex. The truth is we don't give each other orgasms. We give ourselves orgasms. Either your partner is going to have an orgasm or she isn't, it doesn't have as much to do with you as you might think. With Pleasure Center Lovemaking, you're just being more honest with yourself. From a selfishness point of view, Pleasure Center Sex is about the same as hot sex. You both keep each other aroused. The big difference is that when you stay in your pleasure zone together for a lot longer, you become much more connected spiritually. You keep each other aroused with kisses, touching, etc. But at the same time, you stay focused on your pleasure center. Don't worry, you are going to make a much stronger connection than you've ever had before. Neither of you will ever resent the other again. Because you are not trying to stimulated her into orgasm, you're actually experiencing her in a much more natural way.
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If There Are Problems, There Are Answers Pleasure Center Sex practices have been around for centuries and today still solve many of the problems people commonly have in the bedroom. There is no better known way of maximizing trust and intimacy between couples. Besides maximizing your enjoyment of lovemaking, Pleasure Center Sex solves other problems and brings you and your partner benefits beyond the bedroom. Still, you need to show some patience when beginning Pleasure Center Sex. Here are some common issues you want to be aware of so that you can easily correct them.
Not Lasting as Long as You Want One problem is coming too soon. This isn't referring to premature Keep working on ejaculation but rather not lasting an hour or more as I've told you it, it's worth it is easily possible. If you are only lasting 10, 15 or 20 minutes
before you orgasm and ejaculate, you need to slow things down. Your need to fully understand this is about a different type of orgasm. The type I call "Valley Orgasms" or Otherworld Orgasms".
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Last longer and Prosper If There Are Problems, There Are Answers It takes practice to get to 5, 6, or 7 on the orgasm scale of 10. Remember you do this by focusing and relaxing the root of your penis. Your entire body should be relaxed and your breathing slow and normal. This is very different from traditional orgasmic sex and does take practice. But when you accomplish it, your orgasms are greatly enhanced and intensified. You will last much longer and the orgasms will blow your mind because your mind is exactly what is in control. As you gain more mental control, the orgasm spreads from your genitalia to your entire body and enraptures your very being by sharing it with your soul through your spirit.
Becoming Connected It's all about connecting your thoughts with your physical body. Here is Your thoughts are then what is happening connected to your spirit
and your soul. Practicing Pleasure Center Lovemaking enables you to open your mind to sexual adventure and freedom. When you learn to open your mind and heart to love, you become an energy within the universe itself.
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Last longer and Prosper If There Are Problems, There Are Answers To capture the entire experience you might want to consider studying the mediation and holistic principles of the entire Tantra or Karezza philosophies. Granted, Pleasure Center Lovemaking may be the best vehicle for experiencing the profound benefits of the Tantra approach to life. However, Tantra is a multi-faceted approach to achieving a better life overall.
Overcoming Low Libido Another sexual health problem that Pleasure Center Sex often helps men (and women) overcome is a low libido. Low libido is often caused by imbalances in parts of your life other than your sex life. Stress is a common problem in those suffering from low libido. With Pleasure Center Sex, you are encouraged to separate the stress from your sex life. No more tensed up muscles and rapid breathing in a rush to achieve a 10-second orgasm. Instead, Pleasure Center Sex encourages relaxation and learning how to accept the gift of love and pleasure from your partner. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper If There Are Problems, There Are Answers The expectation of giving your woman an orgasm or three or four
Changing expectations is gone. Nothing is expected of either of you other than to
thoroughly open yourself mentally and spiritually and sexually to your woman.
The Problem of Not Coming At All Some men have a problem that prevents them from obtaining an orgasm when they are inside a woman during hot tense sex. Once both of them are physically exhausted from the sex act, he will sometimes masturbate to orgasm. Sorry but that porn is not doing you any good even if you think it is
Pleasure Center Sex does overcome this but the problem is often rooted in porn and/or fantasizing about a movie star or other woman. Porn has become a major problem for some men to the point of being an addiction interfering with many aspects of their life. If this is you, I strongly recommend that you stop viewing porn for several weeks or a month before engaging in Pleasure Center Sex. If you don't stop the porn, chances are you will not experience the pleasures it offers, just like you can't orgasm while inside a woman.
Focus On Yourself A problem that comes up with Pleasure Center Lovemaking is when you focus on your partner's arousal rather than your own. It's natural to want to escalate your partner's arousal during lovemaking. After all, that's what hot, tense sex is all about. And she wants to do the same for you. Our ingrained way of having sex is to stimulate ourselves and our partner to orgasm. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper If There Are Problems, There Are Answers Men naturally go about life setting goals to be achieved and many involve doing things for our women. Your Pleasure Center Lovemaking goal needs to change from your old orgasm goal. You need to change from a stimulation based goal to a Here's how sensation based goal. Instead of it's done focusing on her arousal, focus on
your pleasure center. By doing this, you will both get where you want to be. Pleasure Center Lovemaking is about making a cosmic connection with your partner. The two of you should strive to become one as an energy, a sexual energy. You need to understand that sex and sexual energy is an integral part of life meant to be enjoyed. Pleasure Center Lovemaking is able to solve many bedroom difficulties that may have plagued you for years. But you need to change the way you approach sex. It's essential that you focus on your pleasure center and relax. This is about enjoying all of the pleasures of life and realizing that you have plenty of everything including all the pleasure that sex has to offer you and your woman. But first you must fully open your mind to new possibilities of enjoyment and exploration. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper If There Are Problems, There Are Answers When you get Pleasure Center Lovemaking correct it relieves you of any guilt feelings you may have even if you never realized they were dwelling subconsciously. If one or both of you is still focusing on arousing the other towards orgasm you need to establish a signal to tell the other that is not what you want. It's all about staying in that 5, 6, or 7 zone. If you want to orgasm after a long Pleasure Center Lovemaking session, you can also establish a signal for that as well. I don't encourage this but it is your sex life.
More Benefits and Problems Pleasure Center Lovemaking Solves Touching, touching, and more touching
Lots of eye contact, touching, and synchronizing your breathing further enhances your Pleasure Center lovemaking. With that comes: Problem Solving. Exploring the possibilities of long lovemaking sessions without orgasm requires trying new positions and techniques. It requires talking to each other during sex - something not many people normally do. This all enhances your problem solving skill. Deep Connections. Many couples say Pleasure Center Lovemaking brings them much closer together. It dissolves away issues they had for years. It takes the relationship to another level. Creativity. Once you start exploring Pleasure Center Lovemaking it will open your mind to other possibilities in Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper If There Are Problems, There Are Answers your life. While you'll realize you have plenty of everything, you'll learn what other goals will bring more pleasure into your life. Patients. Learning how to hold back your orgasm and relaxing during sex develops the important skill of patience that follows you into other aspects of your life. Selflessness. Although you do focus on your own out of body experience, the long term spiritual connection that results manifests itself in wanting to do things for your woman out of the bedroom. And she'll do the same for you. You'll stop feeling resentful about doing chores around the home and she'll stop nagging you. Empowerment. This not about having more power in the work place and certainly not about having more power in your relationship. This is about the enlightenment that comes from learning how to express your deepest fears and greatest loves to your soul mate. It's what comes after you strip away the pretenses and artificial ego. Trust me on this one, there are many other benefits and problems solved outside of the bedroom that come from practicing Pleasure Center Lovemaking. You need to experience them yourself to realize the difference it makes in your entire life.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking
Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking In our culture and throughout most western cultures, it's common for couples to stumble through a relationship blindly without any direction. If you are lucky enough to find someone you are highly compatible with you might find some low level of long term pleasure. If not, you likely stumble on to another relationship. I think this is a big reason for our high divorce rate. Most people just don't work on their relationships.
Good Relationships Don't just Happen A good relationship takes time, patience, and two people that really want to be together. When the relationship, especially the sexual aspect of it, isn't going well most people don't make a major effort to fix it. They might skim through a few sex articles to change things up a little and light a few candles in the bedroom but that's about it.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking One thing you must realize is we weren't born knowing how to have good sex. And our society doesn't teach nor encourage people in relationships to find the best way they can to have the best pleasure possible together in the bedroom. At best, we teach young people about safe sex in school and there is plenty of controversy around that even. Then we send them out into adulthood to find a partner and expect them to be happy sexually ever after. Hollywood cranks out one romantic movie after another and the porn industry is thriving. Clearly, our society puts a high dollar value on sex and relationships. Why in the world shouldn't we make information about romantic sex making easily available? We'd probably have a lot more college graduates if the first year all students were required to take "Intimacy 101". Intimacy 205 could be about Karezza sex. If that happened, I think we'd see many more marriages stay together along with having more college grads.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking become a better person by practicing Pleasure Center Lovemaking. You'll be happier, more confident, feel more secure in the person you are, and many others things that have been mention and even more that haven't. Overall, we'll have one better person in society. I think if there was a groundswell of people practicing Pleasure Center Lovemaking, we would even see a reduction in the crime rate, certainly a reduction in domestic violence.
Your Needs Don't Have to Match All That Closely Some people say opposites attract and others think a hand glove match is best. I don't think it matters either way. It probably matters more with hot orgasmic sex when you are both trying to get to the orgasm and hopelessly striving for a simultaneous orgasm. If your partner wants something different, it often means you have to do without something you want - at least occasionally. That type of relationship can't be good. On the other hand, Pleasure Center Lovemaking does not require both partners to strive for the same thing. It's much more about the journey together. You can have completely different experiences and still end up at the same euphoric place. Through Pleasure Center Lovemaking, a deep and intense intimacy develops between couples. You come to completely trust each other. A sex becomes sacred. And it's through that bond that makes outer peace possible.
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The Many Aspects of Karezza Other things that I believe weaken relationships today are stress and financial worries. Life should be full of pleasure at least as much as we can obtain. Personally, I won't work in the corporate world because it stresses everyone out. Too many people build their entire lives around stress, money, and material trappings. And none of it even makes them happy. Oh, they might be happy for a few minutes out on some $100,000 yacht they work 80-hour weeks to make the payment on. Personally, I'd spend those 80-hour weeks being as happy as I can all of the time. Even if you feel you have to stay with a stressful job, you can find blissful happiness in life pursuing Pleasure Center Lovemaking. Pleasure Center Lovemaking has many affects. It affects you emotionally, spiritually, and physically
At the emotional level it's a type of sexual praying that brings a lasting calmness to the emotions and mind. It leaves you in a peaceful state from which you are better prepared to solve problems. The fewer problems in your life the better the quality of your life.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking At the spiritual level, people say it blends the body and spirit together. The pleasure the body is able to obtain is best described as unbound by time and space. At the physical level it Pleasure Center Lovemaking has an intense healing effect. It corrects erectile dysfunctions, premature ejaculation, low libido, and other problems men and women have with sexual intimacy. The hormone induced temporary insanity orgasm that passes for romantic sex today is eclipsed by spiritualistic experiences that come from Pleasure Center Lovemaking .
The Practice of Injaculation In ancient studies of human sexuality, a determination was made that ejaculation depletes a man's energy. We've already looked at this from the perspective of the passion cycle that begins when a man rolls over after intercourse that ends with ejaculation and orgasm. Because of this tendency, followers of Tantra, Daoism, and more recently Karezza believe men must abstain from ejaculation except for the purpose of procreation. They believed it goes much beyond the need for a short nap after ejaculation. The belief is this life giving fluid is vital to the long term survival of a man. In the Daoism version, bodily fluids are believed to provide bodily energy that are vital to survival. Western culture knows how vital Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking water is to our survival. However, the eastern philosophies content there is a limited amount of bodily fluids and once they are gone we will perish. In Daoism, the energy contained in our bodily fluids is called Jing. The bodily fluid containing the most Jing is believed to be semen. Hence, the belief that ejaculating robs men of their life energy. Many many years ago, this led a quest for a way that men could obtain orgasm without ejaculating. Additionally, some believed that a woman radiates energy to the man during orgasm. Therefore, women are/were encouraged to orgasm as often as possible. Because women become more energetic after orgasm, contrary to men becoming lethargic, orgasm is/was seen as a good thing. To put this in perspective, you need to understand a little about the important concept of Yin and Yang. In general, Yin refers to the male gender and Yang to the female. More importantly, Yin and Yang refer to heaven and earth. The thought is that heaven and earth were once connected in a manner similar to intercourse, but became separated. More generally, yin-yang refers to opposites. Not in a Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking positive and negative way. More like sun light and darkness where the two must come together to make a whole. The symbol to the right represents yin-yang. Obviously, there is much more to each of the philosophies briefly touched on in this book. This brief part is intended to explain why it is not only important for men not to ejaculate but they increase energy when the woman orgasms. The overall concept of injaculation includes a belief that when a man orgasms without ejaculating, Jing (energy) of the semen is absorbed into the blood to further increases his energy level. Well established is that male orgasm without ejaculation is different from hot sex orgasm. With injaculation, one of the clear benefits is the retention and absorption of Jing allows the sex and orgasm to go on for a long time creating a sense of heavenly and earthly connection between the man and woman. There are many versions to these ancient beliefs but you don't need to fully understand the philosophies or believe them to benefit from the learnings which is the reason I call it Pleasure Center Sex or Lovemaking. Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Other Things to Know About Pleasure Center Lovemaking Key benefits to not ejaculating include: Retaining sexual energy and drive. Intercourse can go on for a long time. Intercourse can be repeated almost immediately and over and over again. The body does not release post ejaculation hormones that cause tiredness and lethargy. Blood circulation is increased in a way that leaves you refreshed and rejuvenated. Endomorphines and oxytocin are released making you feel amazingly good!
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Last longer and Prosper Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples
Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples Pleasure Center Lovemaking serves many purposes. One is when the sizzle has gone out of your marriage or long term relationship. You may be tempted to try fetish types of sexual behavior you find in women's magazines or porn type magazines. This may work for some people but it is almost always a temporary solution rather than a permanent one.
A Wonderful Enriching Bonding Experience For most couples, exploring Pleasure Center Lovemaking together is a truly rewarding experience that does permanently solve sexual problems. Many couples have a narrow view of sex that doesn't go much beyond once or twice a week sex for 10 minutes in the missionary position. Unfortunately, for others, sexual intimacy no longer exists at all. Sexual intimacy goes well beyond physical intimacy. It involves sharing reactions to the physical intimacy, sharing thoughts and emotions during physical intimacy, and exploring what each other totally has to offer sexually. You can't cram all of these Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples human experiences into a 10 minute missionary orgasmic sex session.
Before Having Pleasure Center Lovemaking Here is something else you should be doing after you have taken Back to the beginning
care of any porn addiction issues and are reframing from masturbation and while you are both working on the Kegel exercises for a week or so. You want to start building up oxytocin in both of your bodies. You do this with lots of touching, kissing, and hugging. Hug whenever you walk past each other. Hug and kiss hello and goodbye every time one of you comes or goes from the home. Get out of the recliner to cuddle on the couch while watching TV. Spend a half hour in bed in the morning or before going to sleep cuddling each other. Do all of this hugging, kissing, and cuddling while reframing from sex. This will build up the "love Hormone", oxytocin in your bodies.
Setting the Tone Schedule your Pleasure Center Lovemaking session. Yes, you should regularly schedule sex the same way you have a set time for dinner or any other important activity. Plan for at least and hour to an hour and a half when there won't be an distractions at all.
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Last longer and Prosper Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples Tantric sex is about brewing passion... slowwwly. It begins by creating an atmosphere conducive to a long passionate love session. Before the appointed time, set the right environment in your bedroom or whichever room you will be making love in. Here's a suggestion, create a little more excitement around this by having you, as the man, set up the room in a way that pleases both of you. Start by removing any distractions. If your car keys and wallet are on the dresser, put them somewhere else so they don't remind you of your daily obligations. No telephones. Unplug or turn off any that you might hear. Same thing with newspapers, the alarm clock, and anything else that has the potential to distract you from your lovemaking. Next, add things that give you pleasure. Maybe bring in a couple of glasses of red wine. But don't drink so much that it interferes with the experiences you are about to embark on. Bring in fragrant candles like sandalwood, musk, Lavender, Rose, and Jasmine. You can also bring in some scented oils for massaging.
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Last longer and Prosper Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples Bring in some music but make it soothing and something that stays in the background. I don't recommend rock and roll or modern country or rap, or anything that will take your attention from your lover. Feeding each other finger foods is also a good way of starting out for some people. Or maybe it involves getting a new set of sensual sheets for bed. The whole idea is transforming your bedroom into a pleasure and lovemaking room. Some people enjoy starting wearing sexy clothing. Remember, Pleasure Center Lovemaking has no rules. Everything you do is about bringing pleasure to each other.
When Everything Is Ready Do this anyway you want but to get you started, I'll make a few suggestions. Sit down cross-legged from each other and have a good laugh or giggle that you are actually doing this. Relax and make yourself comfortable in the surroundings that you have created. Begin by gazing into each other's eyes in the soft candlelight. Pleasure Center Lovemaking is best enjoyed with your eyes open. If your Copyright © 2012 Calworth Glenford LLC.
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Last longer and Prosper Pleasure Center Lovemaking for Couples used to sex with your eyes closed, this might take a little getting used to. Not getting into any heavy foreplay, begin touching your partner. I suggest you don't both do this at the same time. One can lightly touch the other with your fingertips or the palm of your hand. The one being touched needs to relax and enjoy. You can go close to the genital area but don't touch there. Touching breasts is usually fine. After a few minutes change roles. You need to make a judgment call about how heated this makes both of you. Touching, caressing, and kissing are used in Pleasure Center Lovemaking to bring on sensation. Learn how to stop or slow down before it becomes stimulation. This stroking and touching before beginning intercourse is intended to bring your nerve endings to a heightened sense of pleasure. Here is another idea if you want to further arouse each other before beginning intercourse. Sit back to back with your backs touching. Sway in unison forward and backward while thinking about your deepest Pleasure Lovemaking sexual desires. At some point, you will both know you are ready for Pleasure Center intercourse. I now return you to what you learned in the chapter about Practicing With Your Woman. Enjoy this and many more Pleasure Center Lovemaking sessions to come.
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